To tell her to stfu and stop being so ungrateful?!

[NoCapes]

Ungrateful may not be the word but my brain isn't working properly today, too tired

I'm home alone with 3 children, one of whom is only a baby and is very poorly, I've hardly had any sleep and I'm not feeling 100% myself (but trying to ignore it in the hope it won't develop into full grown lurgy)
I need to wash school uniforms, make dinner, tidy up, bath kids, then get ready for another sleepless night
Oh and I'm skint

A family member is currently in New York, and keeps texting me to tell me how shit everything is - the line at the Statue of Liberty was too long, the carriage ride in Central Park wasn't long enough, they didn't get a good enough picture of the Christmas tree etc etc

I've tried to be funny and tell her to enjoy it, tried to be all 'oh I'll swap places with you then if you don't like it haha'
But it's pissing me off

I will never ever be able to afford
A holiday like that, yet none of it is good enough for her - and I'm the person she chooses to tell?!

If she texts me again it's very likely I'll just tell her to fuck off!

Do it.

Diamond shoes and all that! Some people don't think before they text.

Diamond shoes indeed!!

I would have told her to piss off at the second whinge.

It's infuriating when they do that.

It's like they have no compassion for people who are worse off.

Engage your brain and stop thinking of yourself!

Turn your phone off / ignore. She may be aware that you're skint and somehow trying to somehow tell you that you're not missing anything because her holiday is shite, but it's not appropriate.

Text her the second paragraph of your OP.

I would block her number and I think that should block her texts as well. If all else fails switch it off.

"Texted, I'm sorry that NYC isn't all you hoped it would be. For me it's completely out of reach and instead I'm at home feeling unwell struggling with 3 unwell children, so even though it's not perfect, it sounds pretty good. Please try to make the most of it."

Text Liar's suggestion.

I think she's being a cunt rubbing your face in it and you are being far too nice about it.

I wish my sister would do that . Ever since i had a baby, and she started uni, we stopped talking. Its like were strangers now.

Reply with

Fuck off you cuntpuddle I'm too fucking busy cleaning up baby sick & doing laundry to put up with your pathetic whinging about fucking NYC at Christmas not living up to your expectations

Cuntpuddle!

Yes, definitely reply with something along the lines of "OK, I don't need to hear this right now - I'm having a shit time and I'd bloody love to be in NYC but I'll never be able to afford it. Just go and enjoy your holiday for fuck's sake."

Text what notladyprickshit said!! I absolutely can't stand people who go to tourist attractions at the busiest time of year and then complain that they had to queue! What do they expect, that Moses himself will come and part the crowds for them???

I agree with diamond shoes.

Next time she bitches that the line in Bloomingdales was too long reply with 'Oh that must have been a pain with your diamond shoes being so tight', or some such comment, you catch my drift. Hopefully she'll catch on.

As an aside I heard Shappi Khorsandi use the phase a while ago. I think she might be a mumsnetter....

I think I'd send Liar's response in the first instance. If she doesn't get it, and keeps sending those messages, then NotLady's response ought to do the trick.

Margot it's my favourite word

She might be trying to be nice by making you feel better by saying her holiday is not all it's cracked up to be? Maybe she feels guilty?

Diamond shoes? What's that then?

I was lucky enought to go to NY awhile ago with a friend. On checking into the airport, I discovered she had upgraded herself to a business flatbed seat, whilst I was in economy. The stewardess agreed that I could move to the empty seat after business class dinner was served, but my friend fell asleep and forgot to come and get me.

We did nothing but shop for the first 24 hours, then when we stopped shopping she moaned. Constantly.

The ferry to Ellis Island had a long queue, the ferry was too slow, Liberty Island was a waste of time (she was so stroppy by then we skipped it), Ellis Island was a bit boring, she went on and on and on.

She only stopped moaning when we went into another shop.

It then started again, because being on an economy ticket I couldn't jump the queues in the airport on the way home.

I've really seen her in a different light. She's an ungrateful nightmare and sounds similar to your friend!

Tell her to stop moaning. I really get irritated by people who complain all the time.
I've one friend who does this. Everytime she starts, I ask her to tell me something positive and she laughs now.

I'd tell her, yes, in a heartbeat! Then you could be here with 3 small kids, washing school uniforms etc., and I could be swanning around NY. Shall I fly out tonight? At your expense?

Then turn your phone off.