AIBU to think not every issue a child has needs to be sorted out by parents.

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Every little problem a child has with MIL, school, teacher, friend has to he sorted out by parents it seems. Parents need to wade in to solve the issue. Every problem needs a resolution.

I'm sure when I was young (cliche ??) we were just left to sort stuff out ourselves. Now obviously there were some draw backs to this, bullying, child abuse, being forced to have showers at school.......

But has the pendulum swung too far? Would a little bit of benign neglect do kids the world of good? They might have to solve their own problems. Sometimes everything isn't sorted out in life, you don't get invited to every one of life's metaphorical parties. If you did something wrong and you were told off by a relative/teacher/ stranger and you got upset, so what? Behave.

Not sure I agree with myself totally, but the urge to rush in all guns blazing, all the time can't be good. Just have a polite word with the teacher or just don't?

Cory, I agree that it is a fine balance. I too have a DD who has experienced MH issues probably related to a late ASD diagnosis. Fortunately she is able to blank out the exam room cacophony and thrives on exams.

The exam hall is one where the school can choose to do nothing to reduce stress, it can choose to put students in individual rooms or it can look to achieve something of a medium.

Doing nothing is convenient for the school and a few students in tears is just collateral damage. Putting students in individual rooms is beyond most if not all school's resources. Doing something (my school used to put down huge canvas mats on the floor, organise the seating so that students sitting shorter papers werent brushing past students still sitting etc) can go a long way to ease the stress for all.

Students can struggle to get attention from school staff for legitimate concerns. They are brushed off. Sometimes they need parental support.