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You can't have an emergency poo in m&s

202 replies

Annoyinglyhappyperson · 10/12/2016 21:02

Oh the worst Christmas shopping trip happened today. Ds1 went into town for a nice day out together I haven't been too well recently and have a bit of a jippy tummy. We went into m&s to have a look round and decided to take ds for a drink and make use of their facilities as my tummy was still not great. I came out and an older woman went in after me and immediately came out telling everyone not to go in that cubicle
Totally poo shamed me Blush

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wannabestressfree · 10/12/2016 22:15

I have crohns. Threads like this make me glad I go in a bag strapped to my front.... now that is truly noxious.
Poo away my pretty :)

DierdrePewtey · 10/12/2016 22:16

Caught short while shopping
Kids were dropped off at the pool
Best to give it five

DesolateWaist · 10/12/2016 22:17

Miserylovescompany2

I've been in that situation before and shouted out 'it wasn't me' before running to the hills.

Abled-bodied loos are specially adapted - a disabled person can't just jump across and use them if they wish too.

I'm sure I'll be cross posting with someone but it stands repeating, not all disabilities are physical disabilities that require adapted toilets.

WhatLizzyDid · 10/12/2016 22:18

YANBU. Toilets are for pooing and peeing in. Basic human functions. It doesn't always smell of roses but that's life!

AskBasil · 10/12/2016 22:19

I love a Mumsnet poo thread when it's not concerning babies Grin

ReggieJones · 10/12/2016 22:19

Since when have people not been allowed to poo in toilets? And since when have people been required to only produce poo that smells of roses? Op it sounds like you've had a lot on your plate, don't get this lady ruin your day with your ds. Either she was being rude or shes someone who wouldn't care aboutt any personal comment made about her so assumes that others wouldn't either. Not really ok either way though YADNBU

PaulDacresConscience · 10/12/2016 22:19

Some people have a low tolerance for shit smells. Deal with it

How? By not shitting in a public loo? The reason why they sometimes smell less than pleasant is because there is a high footfall, so the loos are in constant use. There are rarely windows and ventilation is normally inadequate to freshen the air quickly enough for the volume of people using the facilities.

Seriously, if the smell of someone's bodily movement is so offensive to you then surely it's up to you to deal with it? If it's genuinely affecting you that much then don't use public loos. I have yet to meet someone that enjoys the smell of faeces, but most people are polite and intelligent enough to accept that it is a normal bodily function and sometimes when you go into a public loo, it might not smell that nice.

WhatLizzyDid · 10/12/2016 22:19

In addition, I think that poo shaming is very bad toilet etiquette.

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Annoyinglyhappyperson · 10/12/2016 22:21

I did think about doing the "it was like that when I went in there" line but she didn't give me chance. The loos were really small and I was trying to make a quick escape mid paper towel drying when she came bursting out in horror. I think she just wanted to make sure no one thought it was her silly woman

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PollyPerky · 10/12/2016 22:21

TBH so many posters here have their own heads where the sun doesn't shine I'm surprised they are breathing at all.

So some of you think that it's not okay to have a poo in a public loo?

WTF!

If it's an 'open cubicle'- ie doors don't close to the ceiling, gaps at the sides and base of door- then any smells waft right into the entire room.

I have slight IBS and go for a poo on many shopping trips. I'll double flush if necessary so the loo is clean but the smells are just part and parcel of using a loo outside.

What concerns me more than smells are women who clearly never look behind after having a wee and see they've left a little dribble on the loo seat. Now that's inconsiderate!

AwaywiththePixies27 · 10/12/2016 22:23

Whatever you do OP please dont hold it in in the future just because of this one encounter. A classmate from my uni days had IBS. They were fine 80% of the time but often had flare ups. On one such flare up they held it in as was about to catch a train. They ended up rushing to the public loos on the platform. Collapsing and waking up on the cubicle floor to find paramedics standing over them.

No one likes the smell of poo but it's a normal bodily function that everyone does. If I had to stay home every time my IBS flared up I'd never be able to leave the house.

GoTellTheBees · 10/12/2016 22:25

I am very sensitive to smells and would turn right around and walk out of a loo someone just had a poo in. I would not have said anything though. Why on earth embarrass another human being for using the toilet.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 10/12/2016 22:28

Misery has reminded me of a similar experience. Taking the brownies to some public toilets, one came out of a cubicle with an "EURGH! EURGH!" reaction. Naturally, dainty little creatures that they are, they all piled in for a good look. In the toilet was a humongous, unflushable log. Someone must have staggered out looking like they'd just birthed a baby after that one. Confused

At least their indignity wasn't compounded by seeing the girls charging off shouting gleefully, "Brown Owl! Brown Owl! We found a poo and it was THIS BIG!!!" (arms full span for emphasis). Blush

It was huge though.

sotiredbutworthit · 10/12/2016 22:28

Can no just point out that you don't commonly get tummy bugs from sharing a toilet seat. You get them via the oro-faecal route. That's why hand hygiene is so important. Smelly or not the woman was very rude to point it out.

Dailymaildailyfail · 10/12/2016 22:29

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NeeNahh · 10/12/2016 22:30

Surely this is a bit of a non-issue. You pooed in a toilet which is what they are for. Someone didn't want to smell it which is normal. I don't use toilets that smell of shit unless there's no choice and I don't think many people would chose to stay in a smelly cubicle.

PickAChew · 10/12/2016 22:31

If you left a smell and nothing more, she was being a cow.

If you pebbledashed the cubicle, then she had a point.

mudandmayhem01 · 10/12/2016 22:33

Old biddies, ahh add in some casual ageism to a poo thread and we really are hitting all the bases of an awful judgey thread.

ToucheShay · 10/12/2016 22:34

NavyandWhite Sat 10-Dec-16 21:12:43 What is it with posters having to tell us that they've had a shit?

Non story.

What is with posters telling others what they can post about?

FeelingSmurfy · 10/12/2016 22:38

I gag at toilet smells, I automatically switch to breathing through my mouth only before I enter a bathroom, I don't even realise I'm doing it most of the time. If I didn't do that then I would have lost count of the times I had run and actually vomited, but that's a problem I have so I dealt with it without embarrasing anyone. I even do it automatically at home

I also have ibs, it's bloody horrible having to go while you are out and worrying about people hearing/smelling. I normally need to use the disabled toilet anyway as I have a wheelchair and a zimmer frame, but if it's a time when I am not using either of those then I use a normal toilet. It is a relief being able to go in private though, the noise bothers me the most.

NavyandWhite · 10/12/2016 22:38

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HaveNoSocks · 10/12/2016 22:41

lol hilarious, people are berating the OP for doing a smelly poo in.....the toilet. If you're horrified by someone having done a smelly shit in the toilet it might be you who needs stay at home.

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 22:41

Navy This is like the third "public poo" related post I've seen today.

ToucheShay · 10/12/2016 22:45

Anyway, you don't admit it, just give mutterings that that's how you found it/you were desperate/no other loo was available

CatoSoup · 10/12/2016 22:56

I have Crohns. The chances of me having a solid bowel movement are about 1 in a million on a good day. Jippy tummy is tame compared to what I have.

You heartless cows telling us to stay at home can fuck the fuck off. It's a public toilet.

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