AIBU for going to company event overnight?

[Kriii]

Dad here.

Just like last year, this January my company is holding an overnight team-building event (Sunday/Monday). On the one hand, it's fun, and on the other, the second day is mainly scheduled for actual work-related stuff.

My DW is furious at the thought of me leaving her to take care of our (at that date) 7 months old DD for the night.

While I completely understand her position, there are some things that should be taken into consideration:

1. We moved near her parents, at a great cost/ongoing effort on my behalf (instead of a 15-minute walk to the office, I now have a 1:30 hours commute each way), so they can help take care of DD (and they are perfectly happy to).

1. I work from home most days, and literally only need to be at the office once or twice a week. Granted, sometimes I work long hours, but I always try to find time to help with things.

1. I've gotten myself out of every trip this year already; was supposed to spend a week in the USA, but weaseled out of it (which I feel terrible about, as it cost us business).

1. In her defense, I don't have a corporate ladder to climb, or have to worry about impressing anyone to keep/upgrade my position. However, I feel I can only take advantage of my position so much before it becomes a problem for me.

So am I being unreasonable for wanting to go?

You should go. This is important for your career.

My DP worked away all week until we had DD. I had 2 under 2 and his DC every other weekend and I was drowning!! One night is nothing but it can be daunting.

I would go, be sympathetic and tell her the following weekend you will gVe the little one on your own for a night ( assuming she's not bf) so she can relax with friends or family and stay overnight with them so she can relax and have a night not listening out for the baby and a lie-in. She may say no but would be s nice gesture. Good luck!

YANBU.

When Dd was born dp had to leave me in hospital with her after 2 hours to go to a present arranged company event ( it's his company). he didn't lake it back until she was 2 days old.

norma9he was away 3 nights a week until she was 8 and I had ds too in that time so was often by myself with a new born and a young child.
unless she's got some kind of difficulty that exams she CAN'T be left alone with baby she needs to pull her socks up accept she's a mother and accept that you need to keep your job. YADNBU

sorry don't know where all those typos came from not with it at all today

I would go and offer for her to have a night away somewhere or see you could have a romantic night away together in the new year?

As you have moved could she be feeling isolated or missing friends? it seems strange that she objecting to 1 night tbh. Have you trust issues in your relationship?

YANBU. It is nerve wrecking being on your own with baby for the first time overnight but she will of course be fine.

It's perfectly reasonable of you to go. I'm not sure why where you moved to is relevant but it sounds like you do your fair share.

Has she given her reasons for asking you not to go or are you telling us what you think they are?

#i can;t believe you swapped a 13min walk for a 1.5h commute

I left DH for one night whilst I went on a spa weekend..... DS was 2 and DD 8weeks!

Why can't she cope with a 7month old!?

My DH had long awaited cpd 6 weeks post birth of my DD - he was away 3 nights and it was relatively easy - mostly I was annoyed not to get more done (house was a bit of a project!)

Possibly the longer it gets the bigger the idea gets so I think you are right to go away, but with the obvious proviso that you get some solo parenting time overnight once BF no longer an issue.

FWIW I've had more nights away from DD than DH has in total!

Assuming as 3 pages in now there's no extra factors...

One night? Seriously? I'm an ex army wife my then husband had to go away for 6 MONTHS when my dd was 9 months old. And I was several hundred miles from friends/family! And theres 1000's of women in that situation.

One night perhaps with her parents helping is perfectly acceptable.

Sibu you should go. It's one night she can cope. When my DD was 1 month old I left DH with her for 2 nights for a pretty planned girls night away. He was happy to have a weekend with her alone. I love having nights alone with my girls when he has work functions away. Once the girls are down I get some much needed time to myself. By 7 months the midnight feeds may be dropping off bar maybe 1 (of course all children are dofferent) so she'll not need you as much and her parents are close by at her request.