DH not letting Brother stay

[daisymai08]

Hi guys
Need some perspective on this,
My DH are having some marriage issues we're in counselling and everything is in a muddle we're trying to sort stuff out but communication isn't great on either of our parts and there's a lot of anxiety.
My brother has just found out his wife has had a fling - he's ok, they're ok but I've invited him out tomorrow night with a friend to give him a nice eve out, he lives miles out and I've offered him our spare room to stay in tonight.
I've spoken to my DH and he's said he's not comfortable with my brother staying as he's having anxiety as he knows my brother knows stuff about our relationship. My brother is entirely neutral and I feel that I should be able to offer him a room to sleep in tomorrow. Ps we've been together 15 years and they've always got on fine.
AIBU? Help......

Update 2.
Went out had a great time, came back without DB at 00.45 he was still having a great time - went to bed DH was hurrumphing in general - my DS had a funny tummy last night and was sick so DH had some clearing up to do.
My DH went to the toilet as he did that my DS came in and groaned - I put him to bed and lay with him to have my DH bursting in the bedroom and poke me saying what the f are you doing - I pointed out my DS had asked for me and he half apologised and left.
In the meantime my DS (10) told me he was scared we got up at 2.30 and I made him a hot choc and we slept on the sofa.
My marriage is over I absolutely hate my DH in all the 15 years we've been together he has never behaved like this but I'm not putting up with it - taken my own shit but my DS deserves better. I have a DD who's 22 and she's never been treated like this by anyone, I'm glad it's happened - I understand now what needs to happen... onwards and upwards

I really do think it sounds like your marriage needs to end.

It really does and I'm actually relieved! I'm so angry it's ridiculous...

Thank fuck for that! I've just read the whole thread and was about to tell you you were being abused and you had to get out of there! And now you are! Yay. Happy (ish) ending!

Be brave and stick to your guns.