Are you living your ideal life?

[Clothears123]

Is anyone living their ideal life. Are you? If so, why is it ideal to you and why do you like it so much?

Good God no. I'm about a million miles away. Still lots of good in my life though.

Well, teenage me would be horrified at how boring and fat and poor and bloody ordinary my life is but I'm quite content to be fair. I would love to be fit, have hobbies and a good career but I'm working on it. I have a nice family and friends so in some ways I'm doing fine.

I'm living what a lot of people would think is the ideal life, we get told how lucky we are all the time.

It's not perfect, not by a long way, but there's not much I'd change either (apart from health issues)

On paper, yes. I have lots of issues with myself to iron out but I'm living a life I always dreamed of in many ways. Wonderful Dh, beautiful home, great kids, SAHM, no real money worries and lots of nice things.

In some ways it makes my MH stuff harder to deal with because I feel spoilt and selfish for struggling. The amount of people who tell me to look at all the good things in my life and then I'll get better is gobsmacking.

No.

Yes totally! I love my life.

Are you?

Ah I didn't even answer the question I like that I'm married to someone I have lots in common with and we have two kids, it feels nice. Everything else is lacking.

Good questions Not ideal - that would have much more money and much less work! I feel extremely lucky in many ways though. I often think of what my 15 year old self would think if she could see me now and that reminds me to be grateful for all the great stuff I have going on

Good question.

No, not really.

Some bits are ideal (DH, DC), other bits are ok (flat, the city we live in) but other bits aren't good at all (job, health, friends (total lack of)).

DH and I are currently debating between two life directions but can't decide which one we'd prefer.

'The amount of people who tell me to look at all the good things in my life and then I'll get better is gobsmacking.'

Yeah. That usually translates as 'please stop talking to me about this'. Helpful - not

I hear you. I suffer from depression and part of that is beating yourself up and guilt tripping yourself about how you have no right to feel the way you do. I always know that I am not depressed when I find myself feeling grateful regularly. Gratitude is just not something you can manage when you're feeling depressed. Go easy on yourself Grab and maybe tread carefully with sharing your feelings with others - most people are fairly crap at handling feelings, including their own

At the moment yes. I am living a life much better I could have ever imagined for myself. Younger Queen would have never believed I would be living the life I have now.

-I am living abroad (in a country where it is feasible to see family and friends regularly and keep in touch)

-Achieving personal goals that I have set for myself

-I earn a very good amount for my age

-I am in a secure and loving relationship

-My family life is a stable as it is ever going to get (very poorly mum who is on the mend)

I am still very young (24) so there is plenty of time for things to go to shit. I have learnt to be happy when happiness is at your door and right now I can see and appreciate what I have

No bloody way

Yes, sort of. I'm very happy with our DC, my DP is amazing, we live in my dream house and have a decent income/lifestyle.

I would be happier if I worked less hours and had less stress at work, however that would result in a lower income and our lifestyle would be different. I suppose in an ideal world, my DP would be able to work part time (he can't due to disability) - that would make things "ideal" got us, I guess.

I love my work life balance. I was brought up in a really unstable and poor home so I feel really wealthy now even though I earn less than average. I love being an adult, I hated being a child so much, I love being able to choose what I have for dinner, where I live etc. I love that my house is warm and full of love, I love that I spend lots of time with people in my job and I feel that I do something useful. I love going for runs and that I am healthy and that I am close to a beautiful park. I like the fact that I can afford to buy things like a winter coat and even afford to buy treats and Christmas presents.
Life is good.

No I'm not living mine but my life is better than it's ever been and I am working on it. My mental health issues have stolen a lot from me over the years but gradually I am getting better and getting it all back on track.

No. I mean, I have actually achieved what I wanted and my teenage self would be absolutely amazed - dream career, well paid, great partner, nice home, nice holidays. But my dream job is actually incredibly stressful, I hate the people I work for and I was close to a breakdown a few weeks ago (I used to be the calmest person I knew - staying calm and rational used to be my strong point). But I invested so much in it, that I'm afraid to walk away. And all that money I'm making is 1) not worth it and 2) mostly wasted because we're so tired and depressed that we're making shit financial decisions (I say 'we' because my DH is in the exact same position).

No.
Not even within an asses roar of it.

I'm not, and I could define why, what things I would want to not be in my life, but then I don't really know what I would want instead. I don't know what my ideal life would look like. I just have a very day to day existence. Interesting question OP.

No.

But I am happy and content and fulfilled, and have what many would consider an enviable life, with my needs met and a great quality of life.

It would be churlish of me to complain I'm not a thin, millionaire puppeteer

Yes, for now. I have goals I'd like to achieve in the next decade and more I'd like to do with what I already have, but this year has been good to us overall. We have achieved a level of stability that was only in our dreams even a short while ago. Family is healthy and happy, and I wouldn't do without them.

Not really, although I'm not sure what my 'ideal' looks like. I was brought up with a lot of financial stability and was very lucky to have a comfortable home, music lessons, a holiday every few years and generally not wanting for much. However, my parents were unhappy and my dad emotionally abusive so I wasn't happy per se. By contrast, I'm now married with a baby, we rent, have no savings, have only been on one holiday in 8 years (our honeymoon, paid for by our wedding guests!) and my DH is unemployed. I'm not doing a job which makes me happy, I can't afford any luxuries. But I'm probably happier than I was when I was a child.

I guess a little bit more financial stability would probably make my life about as good as it's going to get - that and a job I enjoy! We're very lucky to have our health and a supportive family with a shitload of issues but who doesn't? so I have no complaints really.

Not ideal, but pretty damn happy. Great DH and kids, just about paid off our mortgage (though we really need to get a bigger house so will have to get another one I imagine), all reasonably healthy. Life is a bit too frantically busy as I work evenings so don't see enough of my children, and I suffer with depression but otherwise, life is good. I lack a career, which frustrates me as I did really well at school and uni, but really just have a mediocre 'job'. I get a lot less envious of people who have loads of stuff, big houses, new cars etc these days, which is good as comparison is the thief of joy.

Yes, I think so. Usual tweaks...would like to be slimmer and richer, and perhaps be a writer/do more studying.

No. But working on it.

Yes I'm having a lovely life, although everything has happened a little later in life than I would have liked it.