This is running through my mind as I work things out about my situation and what to do. My heart is longing for a child, but I don't want to be unfair to that child, by having me as it's mother.
I'm have a mobility disability and a chronic illness that required emergency surgery this year (bowel related). I'm in my 30s (so may not even be able to conceive) and DH is 50. I am fit to work - although hanging on to my job by my fingernails due to my health problems and being in hospital for about 6 weeks of this year.
I read of mums not fit to work but raising children but I think most of them were pretty well at the time of birth - is it fair to go into it knowing that you will be a poorer parent than many, by being limited in this way?? Do you 'judge' disabled/ill parents in some way?
I guess my AIBU is - if I'm fit to work am I unreasonable to feel I would be unfit to parent?