To think that if you're not 100% sure someone is pregnant you don't say anything?

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I'm always paranoid that someone's going to ask me if I'm pregnant . I have gained a little bit of weight and I suffer with bloating.

My postie comes to the door. Someone I see everyday. He offers to carry the boxes in my house because 'I'm carrying another one now'. Uuuummm no I'm not! He apologised profusely but my god it's a kick in the teeth when it happens.

Trying not to reach for the chocolate now....

Colleague: are you pregnant?
Me: no, I'm just sticking my hips and stomach out as I hold this (wielding heavy piece of equipment)
Colleague: well you're really sticking them out

Some people are just rude

I've had a couple of people saying to dd "oh it looks like you'll be getting a little brother or sister soon". I've had to reply that she already has a brother, he's 17 months. A combination of the contraceptive implant and medication has caused me to put quite a bit of weight on and I'm bigger than ever. I feel shitty enough about myself without tactless people.

I'm 7m pg but overweight so it could look either way. I tend to stick bump out and stroke it when speaking to someone I haven't seen in a while, to avoid the awkward wondering.

My weight yo-yos a bit but the time I was mistaken for being pregnant and offered a seat on a bus because I shouldn't be standing "in your condition" I was only a size 10! So it's not necessarily related to weight or size, it doesn't say anything about your appearance just the poor observation skills of the person who said it. He shouldn't have said anything, you would've asked for help if you didn't feel able to move the boxes.

Unless someone tells me they are I would never say anything.

I assume pregnant women have the common sense to not do things they know they shouldn't without me trying to police them.

Ugh yanbu! I was on holiday abroad this year and about to get on a water ride when the young local man asked me if I was pregnant When I told him I wasn't, he carried on by explaining that for safety reasons he had to ask and that it was hard to tell with some larger ladies !! Stop talking now!
There were many signs on the way to the ride and in the queue that it wasn't suitable for certain groups such as pregnant ladies so why body shame me me?? Why assume any woman would not have the sense to do something dangerous when pregnant?
I cried afterwards and it spoilt my day. I have to say I have two twin daughters and my tummy has never been the same since admittedly but thats my business. I wouldn't dream of commenting on anybody's shape.

Never, never ask or assume someone is pregnant! Though I'm very grateful to the men who offered me seats on the Tube when I looked exhausted and didn't yet know I was pregnant. And any seats any time since.

Even when I had dinner with lots of old college friends, almost all male, and one woman we all figured was probably pregnant. So we tried bringing the conversation round to babies etc but neither she nor her husband said she was pregnant. Later she was upset that no-one had asked her and "they must all think I'm fat" - well you should have just said, you daftie!

I can't remember who said it but it was along the lines of unless you can see a baby coming out of the lady it's best not to ask/assume anything.

Anutteridiot when I lost weight last year I had a flurry of 'don't get too thin' and 'you need to stop now'. I was still in the overweight section and nowhere near being thin. You really can't win. All I've had the past two years is 'you've gained weight havnt you!' Yes dad fuck off , 'you've lost looooads of weight, think you should stop now'. Bleurgh! Why do people feel the need to be so bothered about other people's bodies.

notcitrus you've just taken the words out of my mouth. I was going to say it can be very tricky on the tube, trying to gauge wether someone is indeed oregano the so you can offer them a seat. This has happened to me before on the train, the lady looked at me puzzled as to why I was gesturing for her to have my seat, when it finally clicked I was so embarrassed. I hastily sat back down but it was an awful ride the rest of the journey. I felt the whole train was laughing at me and the poor lady mortified.