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Etiquette for sex

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BedtimeBubble · 03/12/2016 14:40

This morning dd was not in our bed when we woke up, which is a rare occurrence. Half way through foreplay we hear her get up and she climbs in and goes back to sleep. We decamp to her room (where there is a spare bed) but she wakes again five minutes later. I laid with her for twenty minutes but it's now 7am so I know she's unlikely to get back to sleep. We gave her the tablet and she watched Mickey Mouse, we pulled both doors too and finished what we started. I think she was watching it for ten minutes and was none the wiser when we returned. FYI she's always been transfixed by TV and tablets so usually only watches things one the 2 or 3 times a week.

Is this acceptable? Dd is three years old. We normally wait until she is in bed asleep or napping, but tmi I've just finished my period and we are away with my parents for the next few nights so once we'd started we didn't want to wait. I've name changed by the way as don't want this linked to my normal user name in case it turns out that I am unreasonable.

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Fluffsnuts · 03/12/2016 21:45

I couldn't imagine doing it with DS awake, but I can't really imagine doing it at all so that's hardly surprising! But I don't think that there's anything wrong with the scenario you describe.

SantaPleaseBringMeEwanMcGregor · 03/12/2016 23:56

Could you hear her coming? If yes, then you're OK.

Could she hear you coming? If yes, then you're not.

This is my favorite Mumsnet comment of the month!

Also, OP: YANBU!

PurpleTraitor · 04/12/2016 21:45

It's a good rule of thumb. Served us well........

Babymamamama · 04/12/2016 22:00

But children generally sleep many more hours than adults. I don't see why people have to shag when their children are awake and could come into the room at any point. Surely that's what an early bedtime routine for kids is for? I still remember catching my parents out unawares. Ewwww.

Tarla · 04/12/2016 22:04

The mood strikes when the mood strikes. We've had DC for almost eight years now and have yet to be caught in the act, there have been a few close calls but we always hear them approaching before they get near enough so see anything.

BedtimeBubble · 05/12/2016 20:49

Phew we can do it again without feeling guilty. Dd tends to sleep 8 til 7ish but sometimes goes to bed at 10 so it's not always possible to get an early night. It might mean we have sex more than once a month, dp will be pleased.

If we had left her playing she may have left us for ten minutes but I knew the tablet would be most effective at getting her to stay put.

Definitely going to use that saying PurpleTraitor as a way to work out if it's OK!

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smegsmeg · 06/12/2016 02:10

YANBU!!

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