To have told DP his friend had to leave.

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So dp and I have had a few days of work it's been lovely. I aranged to meet a friend for coffee today. It's A coffee turns into wine friend which dp knows. He has someone he worked with who has been going through a tough time I never this met person but dp invited him to our home today. No problem to me told dp would be home later maybe a bit sqiffy as always with coffee wine friend. Get home about 8ish dp here with friend. I havnt eaten so whip up quick chicken tray bake for us all. as I am cooking can here dp friend making remarks about me being out today and being squiffy. Also just chatting got the feeling he thinks women have there place he is from a diffrent culture and older and I have tolerated this in the past from others when i shouldn't have. We got into discussions and it got heated as very degrortyry to women and me. dp did stand up for me. I am tolerant and accepted it' down to upbringing and culture but he went too far as in dismissing my dds at uni and there futures. I lost it and told him to leave my home now. dp could see how angry and upset I was. The thing is he lives the other side of London and he was meant to have stayed the night. He had a drink so was a bit drunk. But I feel I would have let myself and my dds down if I had let this man stay. dp showed him out and told him to go.it's a long way home for him

YANBU. I wouldn't have someone like that in my home.

Yanbu. He came into your home, you cooked for him and he was rude.
Not your fault he lives other side of London. Perhaps he should of thought of that before being twatty.

YANBU,this man came to your home and disrespected you, your DP did the right thing as did you.

It's London. There's 24h public transport, über and so on. If you were in a remote Welsh farmhouse, it would be unreasonable, but you're not. He'll live. Well done for standing up to him.

Who cares if he'd had a drink? He made his own bed...or rather lack of it...when he acted like a dick.

That guy would have been ordered out of my house as soon as he started implying things about my having been out. Culture is no excuse.

Well done!! So often we remain quiet and put up with being uncomfortable in our own homes. You did the right thing. Be proud!

Thank you I was so angry. Then felt a bit guilty of him making his way across London drunk. But his comments were so rude and degrortyry.

Men. The man has legs, doesn't he?

Why feel guilty? He's a douchebag.

He can have a little think about his behaviour as he ambles home. You've probably done him a favour.

If someone said anything like that in my home they'd be out on their ear but less "able" to walk

My 'men' was supposed to be 'meh'.

Am not overly happy with this autocorrect malarky...

Serves him right.

He's supposedly a grown up that means he's responsible for his behaviour (including getting drunk), why wouldn't he find his way acros a modern metropolis with excellent 24hr public transport?

He was a guest in your home and behaved like arsehole and rightly felt the consequences of his behaviour. Don't pay him and his archaic attitude a second thought, tbh I would be more pissed at your H for not kicking his arse out sooner.

Yanbu
Totally unacceptable for him to be criticising you whilst you cook and make him feel welcome in your home.

I havnt eaten so whip up quick chicken tray bake for us all. as I am cooking can here dp friend making remarks about me being out today and being squiffy.

At this point I would have pointed out when I do with my time is none of his concern and he surely remembers where the door is.

Why are you worrying about a grown man getting home? In the most serviced city for public transport in the country?

Good on you. Culture is used as an excuse far too often. He was being a sexist arsehole, why should you then feed and shelter him? He can fuck off and man his manly way home.
He's in London, plenty of transport, he will be fine

He needs to learn that actions have consequences. He sounds like a total arse and I wouldn't let him in my home again.

I think you were absolutely right to do what you did. Well done you.

Well done you!!! You totally did the right thing.

What's a chicken tray bake?

Otherwise, YANBU.

"Its a long way home" Oh dear!! My heart bleeds for the chauvinistic turd.

He can fuck off and man his manly way home.

It's a long way home... ffs. After that performance I'd probably have pointed out that I wouldn't have any idea as my tiny lady brain doesn't do maps or topology, but that I'm sure that a manly man like himself would have absolutely no issues at all navigating the wilds of London to return to the home cave. And that the mighty man hunter could probably spear a feral pigeon or larger game on his journey if he felt hungry.

What an utter twat.

You were both drunk/tipsy. Everyone says things they don't mean when they've had a few. I think you were being unreasonable to kick him out in the middle of the night without even letting him call a cab.