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Original poster

Should my neighbours daughter still be there?

37 replies

annrkey28 · 01/12/2016 17:01

About 3 months ago new neighbours moved in under me, a mother and her 30 year oldish daughter. They are quite noisy so after having to go down and talk to them twice with no luck so i contacted the landlord who amongst other things told me that it is only the mother who properly lives there and her daughter is just living with her full time just now while the mother gets over an operation.
That has been 3 months now and the mother is back to work now and looks fit as a fiddle yet the daughter is still living under the bedroom from me banging, watching telly all night etc. She doesnt seem to work and i doubt she has informed the DWP that she is living with her mum for so long when the govt is paying her rent on another house she is supposed to live in. I really want the noisy obnoxious daughter gone so:-

  1. Should i chase up the landlord to look into when she is leaving?.

  2. Inform the DWP of her living in a house other than the one they are paying for her to live in?.

Thanks for reading.

OP posts:
baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 17:03

Just report continued noise to your landlord. You're making too many assumptions about the rest.

Hellmouth · 01/12/2016 17:06

How do you know she's claiming? It sounds to me like you're assuming she is just cos she isn't working. If her mum's paying all the rent, she might not have bothered. I think you should just keep making noise complaints with the landlord.

Sugarcoma · 01/12/2016 17:07

This is possibly quite mean but I absolutely loathe noisy, inconsiderate neighbours so I'm going to suggest it anyway: let the council know there are two people living there. No doubt the mother is getting a single person's 25% discount on council tax and if she gets a bill for the full amount for two people it may encourage her to get the daughter out (no guarantees obviously but worth a try).

You could also let the environmental/noise pollution bit of the council know and they can tell you whether it's possible to make a noise complaint.

OldSaintKnickerless · 01/12/2016 17:09

You have no idea whether she gets HB or not, leave the DWP out of it.

Report the noise if it's bothering you, that's the only thing that you can do other than trying to have a word with the tenants again.

Original poster
annrkey28 · 01/12/2016 17:12

I dont know if she is getting HB or not but would she A) give up the primary address to live with her mum for a while? or B) pay rent on a house for 3+ months and not live it?. Most likely the DWP is paying. If i inform them they will find out if she gets HB or not.

OP posts:
pipsqueak25 · 01/12/2016 17:13

report to your landlord in the first instance, if they are fiddling the system they will get caught in their own time.

SapphireStrange · 01/12/2016 17:22

I'd report the noise, but her financial and living arrangements beyond that aren't your business IMO.

Trifleorbust · 01/12/2016 17:23

God, I can't believe you would consider reporting someone over this. Really it's none of your business who she has living with her.

Charlottelouisa · 01/12/2016 17:25

Omg! You know nothing about her financial situation why on earth would you do that? Fair enough report to the landlord about noise but the rest is none of your business.

RebelRogue · 01/12/2016 17:25

Talk to the landlord about the noise again. Everything else is just speculation.

Original poster
annrkey28 · 01/12/2016 17:25

It is my business when they are keeping me up all night. The daughter makes most of the noise, if she goes so does the noise. God forbid a benefit cheat gets their comeuppance...

OP posts:
GreatFuckability · 01/12/2016 17:26

she can stay with her mum if she likes? there are no laws against it. its not like she/they are saving any money by paying the bills on 2 properties are they??
If she's noisy then by all means pursue that, but the rest of it is really mean spirited and none of your business.
oh, and FYI, the DWP don't have anything to do with housing benefit.

Suttonmum1 · 01/12/2016 17:26

I'd have no problem reporting abuse of system, but won't that be counter productive. It might force the daughter to have to move in with the mother permanently. That's the last thing you want.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 01/12/2016 17:27

God, I can't believe you would consider reporting someone over this. Really it's none of your business who she has living with her

This! You sound like the ultimate nosey neighbour!

ceecee32 · 01/12/2016 17:28

"oh, and FYI, the DWP don't have anything to do with housing benefit."

The DWP investigate housing benefit now and have done for some time

SapphireStrange · 01/12/2016 17:32

OP, I'll repeat –I think you SHOULD report. But the noise, not your imaginings about what she may or may not be claiming.

demonchilde · 01/12/2016 17:32

Sounds a bit like you have too much time on your hands, that much interest and speculation about someone elses circumstances is not normal. And someone returning to work and 'looking as fit as a fiddle' is not proof that they are well or fully recovered from anything at all, or that they may not still require medical assistance from a relative or carer.

Report to the landlord perhaps and leave it at that. Maybe they will move on soon anyway. I would if I had a neighbour who made assumptions and allegations about me with no foundation whatever.

Original poster
annrkey28 · 01/12/2016 17:33

Not a nosey neighbour, just a neighbour whos family like to sleep at night.

OP posts:
Charlottelouisa · 01/12/2016 17:34

No the financial side of it is NONE of your business plus how do you know if she is a benefit cheat? You sound very mean and bitter to be honest. I'd hate it if you was my neighbour. It's so nosy presuming people's financial status

roundaboutthetown · 01/12/2016 17:34

Well, if you make her homeless, she could move in with her mum permanently, OP. Go ahead and report so she has to live with her mum, instead of choosing to....

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 01/12/2016 17:34

The noise is separate, knowing their movements and (apparently) benefits status is mega nosey!

ConfusedintheNorth · 01/12/2016 17:35

Christ OP you sound like the neighbor from hell... If I were them I'd report you for harassment!

baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 17:36

You know nothing of their situation or where they were previously living.. the daughter could have ended her tenancy or sold a property. She could have fled domestic abuse or she could have inherited a fortune and is staying to help her mum out with the rent. You sound very bitter, but noisy neighbours are annoying. Why don't you move?

Tarla · 01/12/2016 17:37

Just report the noise to your landlord or environmental health, the rest of it is nothing whatsoever to do with you and you don't know that they're claiming benefits either at this property or the other property.

When you tell the landlord that the daughter is still there and making noise he's either going to confirm that yes, she's moved in with her mother or no, there is the only the mother living there at which point you can inform him there are actually two people living there.

Referring to them as benefit cheats when you've no idea whether they even claim benefits let alone commit benefit fraud, frankly says more about you and your snobbish attitude than it does about either of them.

Trifleorbust · 01/12/2016 17:39

So complain about the noise. Stop making assumptions about their finances FGS.