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Should my neighbours daughter still be there?

37 replies

annrkey28 · 01/12/2016 17:01

About 3 months ago new neighbours moved in under me, a mother and her 30 year oldish daughter. They are quite noisy so after having to go down and talk to them twice with no luck so i contacted the landlord who amongst other things told me that it is only the mother who properly lives there and her daughter is just living with her full time just now while the mother gets over an operation.
That has been 3 months now and the mother is back to work now and looks fit as a fiddle yet the daughter is still living under the bedroom from me banging, watching telly all night etc. She doesnt seem to work and i doubt she has informed the DWP that she is living with her mum for so long when the govt is paying her rent on another house she is supposed to live in. I really want the noisy obnoxious daughter gone so:-

  1. Should i chase up the landlord to look into when she is leaving?.

  2. Inform the DWP of her living in a house other than the one they are paying for her to live in?.

Thanks for reading.

OP posts:
PussInCoutts · 01/12/2016 17:39

YABU have some sympathy for people!

You can complain about the noise but leave the DWP and your speculations out of it.

I had a breakdown more than ten years ago when I moved back to my DPs for a few months yet kept paying rent (not on benefits - DPs supported) as otherwise I would have found myself homeless after getting better, cue a risk factor for another breakdown!

Jeez some people only think of themselves. I understand you're bothered by the noise but c'mon who at the age of 30 wants to live with their DM unless it is for a good reason.

RockStonePebble · 01/12/2016 17:39

But if she is living there permanently and has an empty house somewhere (which is wild speculation BTW) then what will happen is she loses that house? She may well move in with her mother on a long term basis which is the last thing you want.

I agree you should absolutely report her for noise. But nothing else. You know nothing about their financial circumstances.

VodkaValiumLattePlease · 01/12/2016 17:39

Well your allowed you be absent for 3 months from your property for no reason and still get Housing Benefit and longer for various times for specific reasons... caring responsibilities included. But report her by all means if it'll make you feel better I suppose.

HoopsandEverything · 01/12/2016 17:39

Report for noise, nothing else.

I would be really upset to have a neighbour like you if I was there caring for a parent - she may still need help even if she has gone back to work already.

MrsJayy · 01/12/2016 17:39

Just complain about the noise the rest you are conjouring up because you are pissed off at noise.

UnbornMortificado · 01/12/2016 17:39

My old neighbours reported me to DWP for going on holiday...

I was in a psychiatric hospital Grin

AdmiralCissyMary · 01/12/2016 17:40

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Youreyouryouare · 01/12/2016 17:41

You don't know she's even claiming! Really, the landlord should have dealt with your complaint without telling you their personal circumstances!

An acquaintance of mine made a lot of ridiculous assumptions about my family and threatened to report us for benefit fraud. It was truly satisfying to inform her that actually, the only benefit we're entitled to is child benefit so she could go right ahead!

GreatFuckability · 01/12/2016 17:42

ceecee I meant the DWP don't pay housing benefit, sorry that wasn't clear.

MsJamieFraser · 01/12/2016 17:44

yabu, report for noise, however yabu as you know nothing of rheir circumstances

kissmethere · 01/12/2016 17:44

I bet they love you too.
How do you know the mum doesn't still need her daughter even though she's back at work?
Although the noise is a nuisance I'd say they'll know you reported anything and you may be wrong about her circumstances anyway. You could start a nasty battle.

corythatwas · 01/12/2016 18:14

Way to make sure your report about the noise doesn't get any attention: report her for something you don't even know if she's doing. Get yourself known as a malicious reporter and you have a good chance that nothing you report will be taken seriously again.

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