Upset. New at work and not invited to Xmas party

[Badbadtromance]

Been here 3 weeks and work Xmas do at posh hotel. Ticket only. Closing date was Monday but no one told me. Really upset. At work now but feel sad

Ask to speak to organiser? It's probably just a cock-up in communication, and they will be able to get you a ticket. Don't sit and stew and be sad - ask to get it sorted. If they are a good workplace they will fix it somehow.

Mention it to someone
I'm sure they'll help you get a ticket

Awwww hope you get it sorted. It's horrid not being invited even if it was an accidentally oversight.

I've been at my place for over 5 years and I'm treated like im invisible when it comes to nights out etc so I'm cutting my losses.

Sounds like a mistake rather than deliberate. Ask if you can go and if there are no tickets left ask to go on the cancellation list - at least 10% always drop out of ours last minute.

Definitely ask whether an extra ticket can be made available. The hotel is going to do what they can to accommodate the organisers. I'm sure it wasn't deliberate.

Badbadtromance, my sympathies.

Years ago, I worked as a temp for a publishing company and although I had been there for several months and my contract was open-ended, I was the only person not invited to the Christmas party. And when Christmas hampers arrived from clients, I was not allowed to have anything from them as I "had not been there long enough to have earned anything".

It probably wouldn't have bothered me so much but I was going through a very tough time personally and a little bit of kindness would have gone a long way.

I'd grab the chance not to enter the minefield with both hands and count myself lucky but I have always dodged The Christmas Do with the skill of a professional dodgy thing.

If you're that desperate to go ask the organiser. I'm sure they'll be able to rustle up a ticket from somewhere even if it means waiting until the night itself when someone is near guaranteed a tactical lurgy.

I'm sure the organiser has missed you off by accident. Shocked at the PP who was a long-term temp and treated so cruelly!

I remember a lovely boss calling me to introduce himself and give me the details of the Christmas party before I started . I had been recruited centrally so hadn't met anyone in the office I would be working in and he called me to make sure I felt included. Though I have also worked places where line managers/organisers forgot to invite those who were LTS or on mat leave. It was noticed the week of the Christmas party and although the venue could accommodate them all declined. I can't blame them as it was so last minute to be free and also they must have felt forgotten about.

Engagement is so important and it's horrible when people are left out

Don't feel sad, the emails about this do will have been sent out in September/October, probably. Although I'm very surprised you didn't see any "final reminder" emails in the last 3 weeks if the closing date was on Monday.

Do you feel you get on with the people in your team/office well enough so far? I went on Christmas do when I'd been with my company 3 weeks too, by then I felt I'd made pals with enough of the girls to cope but if I hadn't, I don't think I'd have wanted to go.

At my last place of work, I was there for 5 years, I was NEVER invited to Xmas events or meals out in all the time that I was there! I felt very invisible. It was a very cliquey place, was glad to leave in the end.

Gin that's sad, it was rude re the Christmas party definitely but the hampers, meh, I've been both in receipt of hampers and also the kind of staff who don't get hampers (when others in the office did) and I wasn't bothered if I didn't get them. if the people in Sales or whatever (as it tends to be) get the Christmas gifts and the hampers then that's a perk of their job, just as the fact that my hours were set and I didn't have to come in early and stay late all November and December to get the sales in before the year end, was a perk of my job.

Although Gin, it wouldn't have killed someone to give you a bottle of wine! Tight gits.

Battleaxe Ha-ha! Too true - that's funny!

So I'm going to ask for a Professional Dodgy Thing Voucher for Christmas - a very worthy skill and sooo useful!

I would just ask, it's probably an oversight!

I would ask your manager if you are able to attend. It's not too far past the deadline to upset numbers hopefully. There may have been an oversight, or they may have a policy that you have to have worked there for a certain period to be included. Fingers crossed you can go

I had that not only was I not invited but I was not told they would be coming in at 8.30am instead of 7am.

I sat in the fucking snow and gale force winds waiting like an idiot for somone to turn up to open

He turned up and just casually said did no one tell you we were opening late.
Now I'd have gone home but I was 17 and scared I'd lose the job if I wasn't there. I had a flat I couldn't afford to lose.

It's probably an oversight as the invites would have gone out before you were taken on and nobody thought about you as you weren't officially part of the workplace.

Judging by some of the comments made by those who embarrass themselves at these gatherings you might consider that it's a jolly good thing not to go. OTOH it's nice to be asked.

Gin, 'when Christmas hampers arrived from clients, I was not allowed to have anything from them as I "had not been there long enough to have earned anything".' That's . Possibly even worse than not inviting you to the party, because it's so petty.

OP, just ask. It's probably a genuine mistake/oversight.

Thank you, everyone, for the kind words!

I would have hated to work there permanently as it was such a joyless, mean-spirited place.

My current workplace is lovely so sometimes there really is a pony in all the shit!

Our Christmas dinner was booked in January. We have several new staff members and when we tried to get extra tickets the venue wouldn't accomodate.

Ah, the joys of temping. I remember one placement where they all went to Nandos for Friday lunch and left all the temps behind. I never went back.

It's not really a case of not being invited, is it? More that you didn't know you needed to get a ticket. Most likely nobody thought you needed telling, or perhaps you missed an email or notice somewhere?
Just ask the organiser if you can get a ticket now.

Thanks all. There are two Xmas did. One free at posh hotel and one in the office which we pay £5 for. Nobody forgot to ask for my £5. Just upset me that's all

I start a new job next week and have been wondering if I'll get an invite. I don't think YABU but I think it'd be silly not to ask if you could get a ticket.