To think my mum should still buy me an advent calendar?

[ProudBadMum]

This year she hasn't! She isn't even ashamed either. Apparently I'm too old but I think that's bullshit.

She's ruined Christmas for me now. How am I meant to know when Christmas Day is if I can't countdown with chocolate?!

Should I go no contact with her now? She bought my child two! One for my house and one for hers. I'm sick of the favouritism.

*Disclaimer: kind of lighthearted. Kind of genuine.

My DM didn't get me or my sisters one this year (I'm 42). The last time this happened (we were in our 30's) it lead to all out rebellion. We will have a conference at the weekend to decide what is to be done.

I did however get my DM one! And my DF one too.

I have already expressed my disappointment directly when my mum gave my 2 x dd's theirs.
Apparently to get 4 x nativity scene ones for all the grandchildren was already £20 and that was plenty to spend. I can share dd2's since she's only 2 supposedly. Not sure what happens next year though...

Now I feel guilty that I haven't bought one for my DS.

Poor you. YANBU. My dm hasn't bought me one since I was 18. I have bought myself an advent calendar but I can't open it until the 12th as it's only a 12 day one. I'd buy a reduced one and eat it in front of her.

I didn't get one from my mother last year, I was distraught!! This year she's pissed off with a new man and we are NC, so my dad got me one, and got one for the (unborn) baby . DH didn't get me one though, think I need to trade him in for a better model

I have never had a chocolate advent calendar. When I was a kid we had one with pictures behind the little doors and it was wheeled out every year. Now that's hardship .

My mum sent one for me and DH (to share) and one for DS.

The trick is to send her one too OP. And make sure it arrives early

My mum stopped buying me an advent calendar when I was about 12 .

She said they were "for children"! Just now, at 41, and reading this thread I am beginning to understand just how deprived I have been .

(Both DPs now dead, so unable to demand 29 years' worth of advent calendar compensation).

I was hoping for a wooden one full of miniature bottles of alcohol. I've hinted for months.

My MIL gets us both one every year! I've got a really fancy one this year and it's devasting to me that I have to only have one a day so no YANBU!

We never had advent calendars growing up so this doesn't bother me. DH is the same and we won't start the tradition now as DH reckons he will simply eat the lot in one go. I know him. He will.

However I do get a selection box at Christmas every year from my mother. Every few years she asks if I think maybe I am too old. She told rightly that I will never be too old. I'm 40

Aww you poor neglected things 😥, bought my dcs aged 37&31 advent calendars & son-in-law a light up star wars one (polishes halo & pratice smugy face) have🍫From me 😘

I've forgotten to get them this year.

(Kids are 18 & 20)

Just off out to rectify my mistake, obviously.

YASNBU

My mum has 'forgot' for that last two years! I told her how horrible she was for not getting me one and she said she would remember for the next year. But she didn't!

I just messaged her to ask her where it is.

You'll still be able to find a cruddy Cadbury's one. I've got a reject one sitting in my kitchen until I find someone to take it away. The Thornton ones are all gone though as far as I can tell

I was joking about this with DH when MIL used to buy us both one, even after we had kids. I used to feel like a child when she bought me one.
She's actually got NPD so I always think it was just her way of saying she was mother hen.
I'm glad I don't get one anymore.

I would be a little irritated if my mother bought me a chocolate advent calendar I am an adult.

Something like a beauty calendar, or a swanky Lindt chocolate one would be different, but a standard chocolate one would make me feel like a child.

My DM got me one (I'm 41) but it's posh chocolate and however much she wants me to be a posh chocolate kinda person I'm just not.....(realises this makes me an ungrateful spoilt brat 😉)

Nineloves1 The only time my mother has done something which made me happy cry was a random parcel with a note in it. The parcel had all sorts of silly and funny unhealthy kids treats in it, and the note said "I was looking at these things in the shops, wishing I still had a child to buy them for. Then remember I do". I was 27.

Awww. That would make me cry. But that's an active choice rather than an automaton.

I have just remembered we made my Mum a Christmas stocking one year. She was so excited!

I am a child, I'm her child. When asked how many children she has she says a number not 2 adults, 1 teen and a baby etc

So for that reason alone she should buy me one

I hate the expression lol, but that made me laugh. You win!

I agree wholeheartedly with OohBetty

My mum bought me a proper wooden one from Next and filled it with Lindt chocolates All because I mentioned that I want to get one next year for my baby. I'm not complaining. In saying that, she wants to get my 35 year old brother an stocking and fill it up because he's staying at theirs over Christmas

I only eat Ferrero Rocher and even then I have to be really in the mood

I don't know why but at that!

I'm going to just have a shot of alcohol every morning as my advent calendar. Mums fault if after Christmas I can't stop