MIL - AIBU?

[SoberSusan]

1st met now DH's DP when I was much younger so called them Mr & Mrs [ ], expecting them to say call us by our 1st names. They didn't.

8 years and a lot of Mr & Mrs-ing later, DH and I got engaged. MIL announced that now I am family I could have the honour of calling her Elizabeth (obviously not real name). But, everybody else calls her Beth. Everybody from next door neighbours to the postman. I am the only person in the World expected to call her by her full name.

I really only questioned it when one of my friends who she'd met twice (but is an old Etonian - which she likes) called her Mrs [ ], and she responded call me Beth. Which he now does.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous?

Call her Bob

Or the above suggested Nigel.

Big Nige

I'd call her Mrs Bucket (Bouquet) but then I would've started that in year 2 rather than 8 years down the line

Or Miss Beth. In a Deep South accent. Then fan yourself

I like Triffle post - Ask Her To Call You Ms SoberSusan.

" Elizabeth Thank for your kindly affording me this opportunity to call you Elizabeth, i shall take great pleasure in addressing you as Elizabeth for the rest of your life. May I also take this opportunity to discuss my own title, I should like you to address me as Ms Sober Susan the Great, thank you - I feel so much more intimate with you now Elizabeth."

Greengoddess

Call her Bernard.

What about 'Lizzy Dripping'?

Call her Libby-Bums. Or Libbykins.

That should sort it.

Call her Ma. Or Mam.

Where I live mothers are called Mam, not Mum. She won't get the irony of you calling her Mam, the Queen likes to be addressed as Ma'am only it's pronounced mam. she obviously has a Hyacinth Bucket complex and considers herself upper class. Only you will know you're taking the piss.

I'm struggling to think of a time I've actually called my MIL by her name. I honestly don't think I have. I most certainly have never called her mum. She isn't my mum!

Call her Dave. Or Eric. The first 5 years will be the worst.

This made me laugh!

I think you should call her a cringey assorted collection of try hard nicknames. E-dawg, Homegirl, DJ Betty, Beth-me-bitch etc.

Call her Mummykins in a sarcastic voice!

Call her Mil, or Millie as she is your mother in law.
Or Faux-Ma, and your PIL can be Faux-Pa.

If "Liz" the shit out of the pretentious old trout.

It's not to late to RUUUUNNNNNN

The only time I call my MiL by her name is when I'm talking to my parents about her.
To her face I seem to end up calling her Ummm.

E-dawg

Make up an 'affectionate' nickname and use it despite opposition....Old Boggins perhaps?

Make her explain herself. Next time some acquaintance calls her Beth, say "I am SO sorry! I have been calling you Elizabeth all this time but is it really Beth you prefer? It is, isn't it? How careless of me!"

If she then says she wants to be called Elizabeth, you can go around correcting everyone constantly in a stage whisper: "You know, she really doesn't like Beth but feels it would be rude to correct people. Please call her Elizabet;, it would make her much happier!"

Mom!

Agree with Saracen.....explain!

Make up an 'affectionate' nickname and use it despite opposition....Old Boggins perhaps?

Ooooh! Yes!

I'm taking this way too seriously given the rest of the thread, but I'm going to say it anyway. Is it possible she hates being called Beth? My name is not a million miles away from Elizabeth, and some of my friends got into the habit of calling me something not a million miles away from Liz. Which was fine, and a little sign of closeness and affection and easier for everyone, etc. I didn't particularly like the name, but hey. But then I got a new boyfriend, and he introduced me to everyone as Liz. Never Elizabeth. And he was a much, much more outgoing person than me so the upshot was that complete strangers would rock up, call me Liz and generally carry on as though they'd known me for 20 years. And over time it started to really, really fucking grate on me, to the point where it became really important that my name was Elizabeth, not Liz. I'd have to interrupt introductions and say "actually it's Elizabeth".
That's a long and fairly pointless story but if your MiL is in a similar position maybe she's just trying to get her preferred name back, and you using it would make her happy.

Or Miss Beth. In a Deep South accent. Then fan yourself

Op I'm begging you, pleaseeee do this!