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AIBU?

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Aibu to not want the dogs around now baby is here?

96 replies

Jadamba · 30/11/2016 18:48

My parents have a Great Dane and a St Bernard. Huge dogs. GD can be boisterous and jumps around a lot. SB is more chilled out but when scared will lunge into your lap (he gets scared of silly things too like the tv turning the volume up a bit). My dd has arrived early, she is now a week old! Her due date was 20th December.
Oldest twins are 15. Then I have a 5yr old and a 3yr old. Dogs are very good around 3yr old and 5yr old. All children adore the dogs. But, neither dog was fully grown when my youngest two were little so I was never worried about the baby with them. But, I am terrified of having baby around dogs. Here's my AIBU- parents are going on holiday for fourweeks and wanted to leave dogs with me. I agreed to keep them for the first two weeks and then sister could have them for the next two weeks as I would have had baby girl by then or be in process of evicting baby. But, I am worried about having the dogs around our daughter now.
DH agrees with me but is worried about where the dogs will go.
DM told me I was being ridiculous and they wouldn't hurt a fly.
DF said in a very grave voice that it would be a problem and sister called me an overprotective idiot.

OP posts:
Notonthestairs · 01/12/2016 19:03

Well done Op - stick to the script and repeat endlessly. I can't believe they are hassling you. And congratulations on your new arrival.

SerialReJoiner · 01/12/2016 19:18

Good on you!

GettingitwrongHauntingatnight · 01/12/2016 19:25

CongratulationsFlowers your parents are being unfair and niave. Your sisters a cow

pigsDOfly · 01/12/2016 19:40

Oh, well done. Don't back down. The more you stand up for yourself the more you'll be able to, and the more people will accept what you say.

I'm only just beginning to find that out for myself, it's taken me years and years and I'm in my late 60s.

If you let them, some people will walk all over you.

baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 20:51

She's got a job, you haven't"

For Christ's sake!!! Well done Jadamba Xmas Smile

yoyo1234 · 01/12/2016 23:15

Good for you, well done.

altiara · 02/12/2016 00:43

Bloody hell, your parents have a lot of cheek. Why would anyone even think this is an option! Your last post is just Hmm
Hope baby is settling in well Flowers

CoolCarrie · 02/12/2016 11:02

Stick to your guns OP, don't let them force you into a very difficult situation.
Congratulations on your wee one! Your family is what matters.

mrswhiplington · 02/12/2016 15:07

For those who are saying Great Danes are not aggressive, I can assure you some are. My SiL has two, one of which has attacked two other dogs, unprovoked. It now has to be muzzled when outside. Also know a lady who lives nearby, she has two Great Danes, one of which has to be muzzled on walks because it is aggressive. Not all dogs are alike.

StarryIllusion · 02/12/2016 17:22

Seriously?! You have 2 teens 2 preschoolers and a newborn and SHE is busy?! Because she has a job? People do university degrees, look after children and hold down a job and she can't manage a normal job and a couple of fairly well behaved dogs for a few weeks? But clearly you aren't busy despite having 2 kids taking mocks, one soon starting/just started school, one preschooler of prime tantruming age and a newborn attached to your tit so you should just take on 2 massive dogs that you probably couldn't physically manage on a walk right now, what with having just pushed aforementioned newborn out of your foof. But hey! She's busy! This has seriously given me the rage for you. Do they not have friends who could watch the dogs?

Jadamba · 02/12/2016 18:05

Thank you for all the lovely messages! And yes Starry, it's ridiculous! Sister is busy but I'm even bloody busier. My mother looks down on me for not getting a job. I finished school when I had the twins, went to colleg and had 3yr olds to take care of when I went to uni. I completed my degree and graduated. I then decided to take a job and worked for 2yrs before deciding to become a SAHM to look after my 8yr old twins. I never went back and mum thought I was lazy and relying on my husband too much.

OP posts:
Jadamba · 02/12/2016 18:07

Ooh and dd is named! She is Brontë Rose. Had stick on name thread but was somewhat rude as I was upset about some of the comments made. Ah well, she's named now. Smile

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PleaseNotTrump · 02/12/2016 18:14

Wow OP - everyone agreeing with you on AIBU - that shows just how unreasonable are being!

WeedlesHatOfDisappointment · 02/12/2016 18:15

I love the name, congratulations!

Mitzimaybe · 02/12/2016 18:21

Well done on standing up for yourself. Stay firm and decisive and do not feel guilty. YANBU. They ABVVVVU.

Mitzimaybe · 02/12/2016 18:22

And many congratulations!

AhNowTed · 02/12/2016 18:26

Haven't read the whole thread just the OP and then scanned, but YANBU.. you cannot trust ANY dog with a baby.. they get jealous over of the attention, and I don't care how docile they are, and I speak as a dog lover.

Jacquinta · 02/12/2016 18:33

Bronte is a smashing name. Congratulations OP

StarryIllusion · 03/12/2016 19:27

You've got five fucking kids!!! How much more of a job does she want?!

splutters in outrage

ShowMePotatoSalad · 03/12/2016 19:28

Your parents sound horrible, OP. Sorry. Please don't let them leave their dogs with you.

greenfolder · 03/12/2016 19:48

Lovely name. Enjoy your lovely family

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