Aibu to not want the dogs around now baby is here?

[Jadamba]

My parents have a Great Dane and a St Bernard. Huge dogs. GD can be boisterous and jumps around a lot. SB is more chilled out but when scared will lunge into your lap (he gets scared of silly things too like the tv turning the volume up a bit). My dd has arrived early, she is now a week old! Her due date was 20th December.
Oldest twins are 15. Then I have a 5yr old and a 3yr old. Dogs are very good around 3yr old and 5yr old. All children adore the dogs. But, neither dog was fully grown when my youngest two were little so I was never worried about the baby with them. But, I am terrified of having baby around dogs. Here's my AIBU- parents are going on holiday for fourweeks and wanted to leave dogs with me. I agreed to keep them for the first two weeks and then sister could have them for the next two weeks as I would have had baby girl by then or be in process of evicting baby. But, I am worried about having the dogs around our daughter now.
DH agrees with me but is worried about where the dogs will go.
DM told me I was being ridiculous and they wouldn't hurt a fly.
DF said in a very grave voice that it would be a problem and sister called me an overprotective idiot.

YANBU, big dogs are generally placid but also crazy clumsy, it's just not worth the risk.

Oh really? Tbf I've only known 2 but they were both terrifying! One used to go for my dog whenever we passed it and the owner could barely hold it off.

I like dogs, and would happily dog sit for 4 weeks,

BUT not with a new baby. Dogs are a lot fo work, just the idea of walking 2 big dogs with a newborn woudl reduce me to tears.

I would leave the 'don't trust them' side apart, (they will never believe that their lovely dogs could hurt a fly) and go tearful on them and say I just have a new baby, she is prem, I am exhausted I have 4 other kids, there is no way I can cope with your dogs now. I need looking after, don't ask me to look after two more needy beings.

That shoudl do it

I wouldn't dream of leaving my two massive dogs with a mum with a big family and a newborn. Even if everything is fine from a safety angle (and the only way of making sure of that is keeping the dogs and baby in separate rooms) that is a ridiculous amount of work to put on a mum a couple of weeks after the baby is born. Not your problem.

YANBU. I love my dog but no way would I force anyone who has just given birth and has 4 other children to look after him whilst I jetted off on holiday for a month.

Your parents can afford to go away for a month. They can afford kennel fees.

Stand your ground OP

I am a dog lover but YANBU. Tiny new babies are not safe unattended with dogs, and with two huge dogs and 4 other kids, it's just too hard to be safe. Those dogs are enormous breeds, they wouldn't need to be at all bad dogs to be very dangerous to a premature newborn, just giving her a very gentle shake to see if she's real could be deadly.

Your parents are being EXTREMELY unreasonable, and so is your sister in not taking the dogs early as your baby arrived early.

YANBU!

They sound super selfish people. Surely your parents should be helping you, not putting on you.

coolcarrie please could we have a pic of your wolfhounds? Bloody love them

You had your baby prematurely! This counts as an unexpected occurrence which changes the agreement - I'm amazed, AMAZED, your parents stillvthinkvtheir request is appropriate (frankly it never was but it so much more less so now).

They talk like that to a woman with a 1 week old baby? Tell them to fuck off.

Not unreasonable at all.

I have dogs and three children and I still refuse to watch anyone else's dogs in my house, I'm more than happy to go in a few times a day to feed, let out, walk someone's dog but I don't want extras in my house. They shouldn't of even been asking when expecting you to be heavily pregnant let alone now you have had you're baby a month early.

God I was coming on to say YABU for wanting to get rid of your own dogs because you had a baby, but this?! YANBU at all. What a huge ask from your parents, they are being totally unrealistic and no way in the world would I agree to that. I'm not a lover of dogs anyway but they are BIG dogs and really not suitable to be around a newborn when it's also a strange environment for them.

Just say no. Your parents have got a cheek to ask.

YANBU. I agree you should say no.

Joining the fucking hells.

No thanks. Your sister can look after them, or your parents can find a kennel or another mug to do it.

I wouldn't have agree at all in the first place, but you are perfectly entitled to say no now that your newborn is here. Congrats!

Who on earth thinks it's OK to foist 2 giant dogs on a family with a pregnant lady/newborn baby and 2 under 5s in the run-up to Christmas! Glad they're not my DPs!

Wow, I have only have a 5 year old and a premature newborn and there is no way I could cope with looking after someone else's two giant dogs for two weeks. It's not like you can take a prem baby out for long walks in all weathers either. I could maybe manage babysitting a well behaved cat at the minute.

And your sister sounds as bad as your DPs. If I was your sister I would have offered to have them already.

Tell them to fuck off and take their dogs with them! Cheeky bastards. I think you have enough on your plate.

I wouldn't have one dog in the house just after having a baby, never mind two,
Your parents are thoughtless and selfish for expecting you to have them.

Wow, YANBU. I think all of us on here will be upset and worried for you and your family if you do take them in. Do not give into their bullying behaviour.

YANBU. The whole lot of them are trying to bully you and it's completely out of order. You owe them nothing.

Why on earth do they think it's ok to speak to you like that?

Babies take priority over animals, end of discussion. Your parents have to make other arrangements.

YANBU. I won't put my dogs in kennels so in your parents situation I would cancel my holiday.

kennels, paid dog sitters (can be done in their house) or no holiday. Pets are a committment and a hassle and people who have them need to realise this.

no dog can be trusted with a small child. Not because dogs are bad, but because dogs are dogs.

this is all discounting the fact that you have a newborn and a housefull already!

Agree with restless traveller. Honestly many grandparents would cancel a holiday to help with young children and a premature baby.

Thank you for the support. I have spoken to DPs and this was our conversation.

"Mum, Dad, I'm not having the dogs for two weeks. They can go to the kennels or to sisters."
"But, Jadamba!! Your sister's busy. She's got a job, you haven't"
"So, off to the kennels they go. And, I'm busy too with my premature baby, stressed out mock taking teenagers and excitable little ones."
"Can't the DT's come and stay with the dogs? They won't take big dogs in all the kennels near us."
"They are stressed! Kennels."
Then I hung up.
I'm bloody exhausted. Trying to find a name for the baby and looking after her and making sure the little ones aren't feeling leftout and the older ones are having a good exam day breakfast. And, I know one DT will not have revised!