Would you be worried? Should I do something about it?

[user1480366912]

One of the mummies I know has got drinking problem... Well we all can see it but she thinks that everything is ok. She would have 2 or 3 glasses of wine nearly every day and get extremely drunk when we go out (I mean being sick in the restaurant and being asked to leave someone's house drunk). As we are a part of a bigger group I am happy to ignore her and focus on talking to the others but it recently started to impact on her kids... She continued to drink when she was pregnant and when her ds2 was born and only 1 day old they took him to the pub to celebrate with wine and dinner. Within few months of him being born she would text is few time asking for help as he was running a high fever but because they both had a drink, they couldn't drive to the hospital. Few time she would also ask if someone can come in and look after the baby as they had a "stomach flu"...
I know that social services have more pressing cases, and they look like a completely reasonable parents (big house, new car, nice middle class area) but I can see a lot of neglect when you look past the surface.
Would you report them? I am not close enough with them to just have a chat...

[shinynewusername]

3 x 125ml glasses a day would be 50% over the recommended limit for women and I don't know anyone who uses 125ml glasses at home. 3 x 250ml glasses is a bottle a night. That is a problem.

Alcohol is a huge contributor to cancer and obesity, as well as to all the problems of the intoxication. The denial on MN is worrying.

[user1480366912]

Wow I didn't expect that many responses. Few things that I need to say on the subject:

1. I'm sorry if you feel it's fake... Not sure what to say about that. Some of you pointed out that we have done NCT together 5 years ago and the group stayed in touch but we never been close - we would go out as a part of the group (8 of us) but we wouldn't have a coffee just two of us. That is why I would never think that we are close enough for me to have a heart to heart chat with her. (Hope that it make sense)
   

1. Situation with the hospital - it was when her DS2 was 10 days old and was running 39C fever - HV advice in that cases is to take baby to the a&e. She sent all of us a text to ask for a help and then followed up with a group msg to the nct gang on fb. And yes she asked if someone could take the baby as they can't go because they had a drink and they don't want to show up drunk at the a&e.
   

3.I have to add that I'm completely shocked about how relaxed about drinking some of you are. Maybe I am just old-fashioned but having 2-3 glasses every day seems a lot to me.
I wonder if reactions would be the same if I said that she lives in council flat and every day I see her with a bag with 3 cans of beer in it.

[Gottagetmoving]

Lots of people have 2 or 3 glasses of wine a day,..yes, even people with babies.
Drinking while she was pregnant is not a good idea but it is her choice.
Unless you know she is blind drunk in charge of a baby, I would keep out of it. I don't think you have enough information to qualify you to report her.

[Gottagetmoving]

I wonder if reactions would be the same if I said that she lives in council flat and every day I see her with a bag with 3 cans of beer in it

Why wouldn't reactions be the same?
There is nothing wrong with people because they live in a council house.
There is nothing wrong with having a bag with 3 cans of beer in it.
Do you often look down on people?

[user1480366912]

Oh just last thing - thank you to everyone for their input. I will be honest - I'm probably more confused about what to do but some responses were really helpful.

[MsJudgemental]

MY WINE MEASURES ARE 100ML PER GLASS, NOT 250ML. I am not talking pub measures!

[MsJudgemental]

What Gottaget said.

[cheekybean]

IMO, if she is unable to get a 10day old baby to a&e because she is too drunk, and she doesnt want a lift because she doesnt want to be seen to be drunk then she has a probleM but she knows she has one. Most alcoholics based on personal family experience never think they are wrong. Maybe she needs a friend

Its really sad though, i have a newborn baby and would not contemplate getting ratted as hangovers and sleepless nights are crappy! That said, i dont drink unless the kids have gone to grandmas for the night

[5to2]

most of Western Europe are raging alcoholics

I don't know about that but a lot of Western Europe has an alcohol problem. Not perhaps in terms of anti-social behaviour around pubs on a Friday night but every country has major alcohol-related health problems. France, apparently the country with a measured and civilised drinking culture has a massive problem with liver disease.