Barely pregnant and lazy

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I found out on Saturday evening I'm pregnant but only a few weeks. Suddenly the cramps I thought were period cramps make sense but I'm exhausted.

I've been shopping with a friend today and feel like I could go to bed now. Husband is wonderful and has sent me for a sit down and a cup of tea.

So aibu to basically make it to work and already arranged commitments but otherwise not do a lot. It's our first baby and no one in RL knows so I'm delighted but shattered.

Also please can you lot reassure me when I go to the GP they will be kind and not just pointing out I'm overweight(which I am well aware size14/16).

Thank you

When I was first pregnant but before I'd twigged and POAS I thought I was dying from some horrible disease. Felt exhausted, tearful, tits on fire, more exhausted. And sick. So much for the beautiful bloom. Your GP will be fine.

congratulations. . yes first couple months very tiring (and a bit emotional). GP will be fine. 14/16 isnt that overweight. xx

Your body is in the early stages of making a whole human being, of course your exhausted, you are creating life!

I was an 18 when I had my first, they did keep a close eye on my weight to make sure the amount I gained wasn't too much but I didn't feel they were particularly judgy.

Congratulations

Size 18 not 18 years old (I was 22)

First massive congratulations on your pregnancy. Secondly only do what you have to do for the time being. On all of my pregnancies (4 demon incubations) I was betond exhausted before even finding out I was pregnant. I found once I was a bit into my second trimester I perked up a bit though. At the start it was a completely different story. On my 2nd and subsequent pregnancies I went to bed with my child (ren) at about half 6 each evening. Just couldn't keep my eyes open after that hour of the evening.

The first trimester is the most exhausting in my opinion. I couldn't stay awake in the evenings at all.
GP/midwife won't care about being a size 14-16. I am too and no one has mentioned it. I think weight is only a concern if you're really big as it can cause complications in pregnancy.

The first trimester is infamous for making you feel like you've been run over by a truck. I was less tired when I was recovering from chemo than I was during early pregnancy! It's normal.

Congratulations!

Yanbu at all! Making a baby is tiring especially the first trimester, lots is happening! Take it as easy as you can!

I had a friend who spent a lot of the first trimester sitting on the sofa, sternly telling her husband "I am growing a PLACENTA!" YANBU. Congrats!

You're growing not only a human, but a new organ as well. I was useless early pregnancy, can't believe how much I slept! I would get up, go to work, come home, nap, get woken up for dinner and go back to sleep!

Thank you guys..making me feel a lot less nervous about the GP stuff.

Feeling very lucky and happy just shattered.

I've been lurking on here and on baby names for a while so now finally felt I could justify joining.

Yanbu! Rest and do more when you feel up to it. Don't worry about it.

I've been strongly advised by my consultant not to do anything to strain my ab muscles, so no vacuuming, mopping, lifting wet laundry or heavy things. Happy days! 🤗

YANBU, take it easy if you can! I'm pregnant with my second, both times I spent the first 10 weeks or so napping on the sofa every day.

As for your weight, I'm a size 12-14 but short, so my BMI was over 25, and nothing was mentioned at all. I think it's only a concern if your BMI is over 30, and even then they shouldn't be judgy but there are legitimate concerns at that weight.

Early pregnant exhaustion is hideous. It's like something that's alive. The baby is growing very fast at this stage and it does make you exhausted.

Oh and congratulations

You are making a human being, it's hard work and you need to rest. Congratulations

My first trimester I went from what DP calls my "usual hyperactive" self, who thought 5 hours sleep a night was "more than enough" to coming in from work at 7, falling asleep on the sofa immediately, waking for dinner (which DP cooked and basically fed me) then falling asleep again. Could barely keep my eyes open at work, and my hobbies (gym and running) were replaced by sleeping and dozing. (Very different )

So no YANBU - and you'll probably feel much more energy again in the second trimester. Be kind to yourself now, and get all the comfy sleep you can-before your belly gets too big, and then the baby's here!

Feeling more exhausted than I ever thought possible was how I knew I was pregnant

Congratulations! I'm currently pregnant and a 14/16 plus I'm short and old. My BMI is over 30 sadly but no one's told me off about this - they will probably monitor me a little more closely though.

If you are over weight when pregnant you do need to be aware you may develop gestational diabetes (I did with my last pregnancy). It's not the end of the world if you do but it's not really ideal for you or the baby. Am sure your midwife can advise you further.

Yanbu, go to bed and sleep, I used to go straight to bed after work, social engagements where cancelled. Luckily my early pregnancy was January

I was so tired the first few months! But it gets better (usually!) I think it's until the placenta is fully grown at 3 months. Congrats!
I doubt they will say anything about your weight in general, if they do it will be in medical terms.. depending on your BMI they might refer you to a consultant, my midwife said if over 30. Mines quite high and I've just had a few more tests as a result but never for one moment felt judged. Looking at the waiting room when I'm there, most people are at least size 16 so it's very common.

Actually apologies - it's not my place to point this out and I don't want to worry you at this early stage. It's just I had it before and I know what steps I can take early to try to prevent it happening again (watch consumption of sugar and refined carbs and try to exercise every day)

Yanbu.

When i was pregnant I had loads of energy from about 11 weeks right through to end of pregnancy; avoided all pregnancy complications and felt great.

Weeks 5-11 I got home from work and lay on the sofa. If my DH hadnt cooked me dinner every night I wouldn't have eaten as the thought of having to stand and cook was so abhorrant that I would have prefered to just go without food.

I slept about 12 hours a night during the first trimester and was still knackered. Then mid week 11 it just went- and I went back to feeling normal.

Squat, I'd been thinking of gestational DM so I'm being really careful and keeping an eye on food and exercise.

You've all made me feel so much happier about it all. I'm feeling less like I'm being lazy and less worried about the doctors.

Thanks for all the congratulations.much appreciated

I felt like I'd been hit by a sledgehammer of exhaustion, not helped by barely being able to eat due to nausea.

I can remember lying on a bench at a National Trust property at 11 weeks feeling like death. A coach load of spritely young pensioners turned up and ousted me. I didn't have the energy to protest, and could just about summon up a dirty look as I shuffled off in my oversized hoodie looking like a petulant teenager.

The second half of the pregnancy was physically tiring, but at least I was obviously pregnant and struggling and could get public sympathy. Even the sleep deprivation caused by a rubbish combination of carpal tunnel syndrome and SPD was less draining than the insatiable exhaustion at the start. It was fantastic having a newborn baby and indulging in a refreshing 2.5 hours sleep at a time

I hope this phase passes quickly and you find a pregnant bloom!