DD having to do toilet checks in men's toilets

[seriouslyclueless]

So, just chatting to my DD (17) about her work.
She works in TGI Friday's and generally moans about the stress of it all and I normally smile and nod and offer her sympathy as required and tell her to stick it out and payday always makes it all seem worth it yada yada.
Then she tells me that she has to do toilet checks and quite often men come and just pee while she's in there or go for poo and she has to wait til there done to fill up the toilet roll.
I'm really unhappy about this and feel this is putting her in a really vulnerable position.
Would I be U to phone and voice concerns objet manager tomorrow morning ?
I've said to DD that I'm going to phone and she's happy for me to as says she feels really uncomfortable doing the checks on the men's toilets.

If a man comes in you leave the room until they're done. Go in check toilet roll, leave if you have to, go back in and wipe sinks, leave if you have to, go in replenish hand towels and so on.

She needs to get her 'tone' which chases them to the disabled toilets if any.

Do not ring on her behalf.

Yorkiesglasses, yes, this. This is what worries me.

Gamerchick, today the disabled loo's on the downstairs were closed as toilet blocked (this is what started the conversation off as she said it was a shame on a little old lady who couldn't manage the stairs and so couldn't go to toilet) the men's are up a really windy set of stairs so think people feel if they've made it up there then there going to the toilet.

"They're "

If the men's toilet is up stairs, presumably there isn't any issue about men deliberately going there because they see a young girl going in? For all they know if she's going upstairs she could be going into another room.

Yeah I suppose so "Wouldhave" there is only the male and female toilets upstairs.

Is your dd exaggerating how many times men have ignored her request to wait outside? I don't think I know anyone who would do that because of their own embarrassment and worrying about your dd not wanting them to.

I do think your dd needs to be more assertive and TELL them they must wait outside and she won't be long or at the very least wait until she has managed to leave. The 'if you could...' type approach is just too polite. The sort of hiding in a cubicle thing sounds bonkers.

I'm glad you've decided not to call.

I had to do this as a teenager. The protocol was that I would go up and take a good knock on the door (which was always open, facing onto busy outside area) and holler to see if anyone was in. I wouldn't go in until the whole place was empty and certainly not while anybody was doing their business.

Don't ring though, just tell her to politely state that she's not going in to an occupied gents' if anyone orders her to. She could maybe mention to another girl that she's going up there so they know her whereabouts.

To be honest I think it's horrible to ask a 17 year old girl to go and check men's toilets and I feel the same about a 17 year old boy checking the female loos.

Being a teenager is hard enough without forcing that on them!

Could she tell the boss she will check the female toilets but not the male. The male ones can be checked by a male member of staff.

I would try and empower her to speak with her manager. If this isn't successful then yes, you should ring. 17 is a vulnerable age - almost but not quite son adult, not sure of the 'rules of the game'.

I was treated terribly at my first p/t job. Bullied, physically and sexually abused. I complained but it went nowhere. I was frightened I wouldn't be able to get another job so I just put up with it because I needed the money. I would haveloved someone to act as my advocate.

Your daughter I'd bring out into a situation that puts her at risk. This is not appropriate or safe. If she is not grave enough to defend herself then you should.