To want to decorate my own Xmas tree?

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DH and I moved in together about 5 years ago. Prior to that I shared with girlfriends (and we didn't bother with a tree) or lived at home with parents.

In the December we moved in together MIL gave us a bin liner full of all her tree decorations (some passed down from DH's grandma) saying she no longer puts up a tree now DH has left home. She also makes or buys our children a bauble each year.

This year, for the first time, I suggested I might buy some new baubles. We have bought our first home and have spent a lot of time decorating each room one by one so I guess my head is in that space of wanting to decorate the tree for the first time in my life.

DH suggested it would be ok to buy a few new to mix in with the old but not many.

Aibu to want to decorate my own tree. And if not now then when?

She could even go a vintage shop and buy some beautiful antique decorations. Oh, wait............

put a few old ones and a few new ones on your tree and hand the rest back for her to distribute round the family x create your own memories

Oh, wait............

and so what if she did. The whole point is to have things you have chosen yourself. Again, what's wrong with that.

If your husband is REALLY keen on some childhood mementos, you can also put a few on a tree, and keep the rest of them for another year. If he just feels buying new things is wasteful, then he's being silly if you can afford it.

YANBU to want to decorate your first xmas tree with your own lovely things. \I wish I still had my mum's decorations but 60s baubles were all glass and they smashed long ago. I wish I could find the fairy I made at school but she's long gone too.

But that's me.

Whatever you decide to do, do not give them away or worse, accidentally on purpose smash them. That's awful. Just wrap them in newspaper and put them in the loft.

If you can't do what you please in your own home, it's a bit sad, where else can you do it.

Op doesn't live alone. It's her Dh's 'own home' too.

Agree with all the suggestions of pulling old ones out, asking dh (and possibly children depending on age?) which decorations matter to them. Then get new ones (with dh if he cares or not if he doesn't).

Also, for the knee jerk sexist commenters - despite my vagina I couldn't give a flying fuck about Xmas decorations, and despite having a penis my husband regards then as precious relics from childhood, so quit with the tired generalisations about what 'blokes' vs women care about.

Can you do something else with the old ones? Fill a large vase with them for a hall table? Make them into a wreath? Hang them in the window? Rather than another full tree, a "twig" tree? Maybe check Pinterest for clever ideas?

I want Nigel Farage on top of my tree - with it poking right up his ring peice

When we had our first tree, I bought several sets of cheapish baubles - you need a fair amount of baubles to make a tree look good. As we have gone on, we have added new baubles each year, and retired the majority of th baubles from that first Christmas.

As I suggested earlier, the OP could use the collection from her MIL as the starter set for their tree, with some baubles she has chosen, and can gradually add more she and her dh choose as the years go on, and just keep their favourit s from MIL's collection.

It is a sensible compromise, I think.