To want them to LEAVE

[Skimpyfd]

Flatmate has her boyfriend staying for a week and I'm the only one also in the house (two other flatmates away this weekend). I don't think they realise I'm in as they have her bedroom door open, have been shouting about who needs to use the shower, it sounds like another friend has randomly come over... I just want to for a wee and have a cheese toastie :( She's a student so has lots of time at home; I work a pressured long hours job and this is my first lie-in in two weeks :( PLEASE GOOOOO

You can't expect her to change anything just because she has more free time to spend at home than you. At one point I'm sure that was you, while other people worked full-time. Unfortunately you can't have the house to yourself because you share it with these other people. All you can do is say you don't want people staying for longer than you as a group of housemates decide is reasonable.

Why should I?! I'm sure I've got things in my life that are harder than you - get a grip yourself FFS

The only thing you need to get a grip of, Skimpy, is that toastie. Your hunger is making you cross. Go and get one - who cares what you look like? It's your home too, yes?

Yes I know but they're still here - just pottering about in the kitchen - why?! They've been just wandering about for hours, I wouldn't do this with friends over!

IMO you are too accomodating. In your bid to avoid your friend and her boyfriend you are letting them have free reign of the house and because of this they keep doing it. Now how about you go down and make sure you are in the kitchen when they are, or the sitting room joining in conversations etc and see how long they stay there for!!!! They will want their own space and will go out but currently because of how you feel, it is easy for them just to chill about the house as you are not about. It is because you are making yourself scarce!!!!!

The only thing you need to get a grip of, Skimpy, is that toastie

This ^^

Be brave OP

Couldn't bear sharing with others ever again. Am a v private, quiet -antisocial- person and hate others' noise, mess, visitors, smell etc etc. Maybe you should consider saving towards a bedsit or one bedroom flat? So worth it!

YANBU - I understand OP. It is horrible.

Keep saving for your own place - then get married, have babies and suddenly realise you are "flatsharing" again with a load of horrible teenagers that you can't get rid of because they are yours!!

OP, again, take up space in your own home, stop being so thoughtful about giving them space. Channel a bit of Pete the angry roommate from Shaun of the Dead and think of the cheeese...

I hate flat sharing with a passion.

Your flatmate has as much right to potter about at the weekend as you do. Why she is there is her business.

OP, is this an actual proper flat share or just a house of multiple occupancy? I would expect if I paid half of rent and bills that I could use the flat pretty much as I wanted to (within reason, so no loud noise after midnight at weekends and earlier in the week etc) So if this is the case, YABU towards your flat mate. But then again I would only share a flat with someone I already knew and got on with REALLY well. And we': definitely have to have the same lifestyle e.g. Working professionals. Trying to mix student with full time worker doesn't work.

If it is a house of multiple occupancy, i.e. You have your own room but shared facilities like bathroom and kitchen etc then YANBU. In those you're expected to keep to your own room and only stay in the shared facilities for as long as it takes to use them!

There is a distinction.

Have yuo still not been and made anything to eat. This is just a saga now..

I'm over invested in the cheese toastie now.
How about you do this: phone your flatware or text and say seeing as you have guests over and I look like poop and I'm starving to death... be a love and do me a massive round of toasters and an enormous brew... pleeeeeeeeaassse

Flatemate!!

Do it op! Take back your cheese toastie rights!

Ignore the grumbling gits upthread.

Personally id go in and start farting or being obnoxious or flirting with the boyf. Then they may not longer so.

Linger !