Briefly, he has previous, I found gazillions of calls/deleted texts several years ago. He fronted it out right up until I rang the woman he had started seeing in front of him. She said they hadn't dtd and was horrified he was married as he hadn't told her. It took a long time but we agreed to wipe the slate clean and keep going.
I must admit to still struggling to trust him and tonight something odd happened. He's not very good with phones, and he called me a couple of times today and it came up 'unknown' so when he came in I was like 'what have you done, you plonker, your phone is set wrong'. He said to reset it correctly which I had to fumble around for. And in 'blocked callers' (I was just going thru the menus trying to find how number display came up) there were 2 mobile numbers.
He was talking to me from the kitchen, so I stupidly scribbled doen the numbers and of course he caught me. He snatched the writing pad off me and went thru the pages until he found it. He screwed it up, headed upstairs saying sngrily about lack of trust. He's comp,early destroyed the paper somewhere (and been back and ripped out the page underneath where imprint was).
He's adamant I don't call the numbers which makes me feel he's definitely hiding something. Last time there were a few odd things and he literally denied until it was impossible to continue to do so. I feel like shit :-(