AIBU about snacks..

[TheRandomer]

Picking DD (5years) up from school I was met by the teacher who informed me that DD had missed playtime due to taking another childs snack. All children have access to fruit from the school as a snack which my DD has.

Now obviously taking another childs food is wrong and this has been discussed with her and suitably disciplined. However am I AIBU to think the school should not br allowing sugary snacks? it is little wonder this could conflict with those eating fruit and healthier options.

Just asking for opinions before I speak to the teacher tomorrow!

Blimey. A 5 year old is obviously tempted by the unfair snack situation. Kids don't have the same impulse control as adults. ..They are small children ! Of course children in a group setting should all have similar food on offer.

Of course children in a group setting should all have similar food on offer

How do you organise that waterrat? Do you impose a strict daily snack menu? Unless the snacks are provided exclusively by the school, it's simply not possible.

Whether you have a point about whether or not children should be allowed unhealthy snacks is totally irrelevant to what happened with your daughter.
I keep encountering this attitude that children should be protected from ever being in a situation where someone else has something they want. A mother recently asked me to put away a toy my child had got out of the basket because their child immediately start screaming they wanted it. What ever happened to taking terms.
This is an opportunity for you to explain to your child that it is wrong to take something from someone else, even if they really want it. Surely at five a child is capable of understanding they can't have everything they want, even if someone else has it??
If you have a problem with unhealthy snacks, wait a few weeks and raise it in isolation from this matter.

As already stated several times now your preaching to the converted Winifredgoose. My DC are not brought up as entitled brats. But they are children at the end of the day and make mistakes and hopefully learn by them.

Our infant school only allowed either the fruit snack provided or other fruit item unless there was a specific reason otherwise. Our junior school is a little more lenient but it should be healthy! I agree they should be promoting healthy eating however, if you want to bring this up I would seriously wait and not do it now otherwise it looks like you making excuses for your DD behaviour which is a separate issue.

I think the important word here is "promote" as in the school promotes healthy eating. Promote does not mean ban. So if parents want to send their child in with marshmallow bars or crisps that is up to them. My child gets up and eats breakfast at 6am due to us having to deliver him somewhere else before school before rushing off to work, so an apple at 11am, some five hours later isn't going to cut it. Some people just think they are the food police, dictating what other people do.Today in Maccies I saw a one year old tucking into burger and chips....I didn't agree with it and my kids didn't get Maccies until much later and limited etc....but it doesn't mean I can go up to the Manager at Maccies and tell them not to sell them to people for one year olds!!!! You need to but out if other people's business....

But fruit really isn't a great mid morning snack in the first place!!

Its too high in sugar!

Higher than those sugary marshmallow squares.

Am totally appalled by schools only offering fruit. As for the idea that all kids should have the same it's a nonsense unless every child is also eating the same the rest of the day.

And either way for the sake of the kids teeth it shouldn't be fruit

Yabu

Yes the school should promote healthy eating but that has absolutely nothing to do with your DD taking another child's food. Why would you need to talk to the school? She did something wrong, school punished her in an appropriate way, and informed you. That's really the end if it

The OP is wanting to talk to the school to stop the other kids eating what she sees as unhealthy snacks....ie she is wanting other kids to go hungry just so as her kid doesn't get upset.

OP, you are clearly the Cruella de ville of MN. feel soz 4 u hun

#grossoverreactionsonthisthreadaboutOPandherkid

I can't quite believe how nasty and vindictive some of these posts are regarding the OP and her daughter. She said straight off that the taking of the other child's snack was wrong and she has backed school up in dealing with it.

The issue is basically if you put a piece of fruit and a chocolate type snack in front of a 5 year old chances are that they'll go for the chocolate. This is very tough for a 5year old whose impulse control (quite naturally) is not great. So in order to not tempt young kids you keep them away from stuff you don't want them to be eating too regularly.

We also used to have an ice cream van parked outside the school in summer and some kids got one every day, my DC was only allowed one on a friday and it was really quite hard to have to walk past the van every other day.

OP if I were you I'd stop reading this thread. People have been deliberately goading and said some mean stuff about you and your DD. You were upset that your child was put into a difficult situation and made the wrong choice. That made you cross with the school in the first instance. I get your immediate response and why you were cross.

YANBU

My dc always take fruit. Friends take pancakes, cereal bars, dairylee dunkers ect. I just explain to dc that they could have these but then they won't get a biscuit after school or other small treat. So they choose to have fruit

Will PM you Randomer

The child wasn't "put into a difficult situation", catsnicked, she saw something belonging to someone else and took it. Nobody expected her to make a choice between the sweets and a piece of fruit; one belonged to her and the other didn't

Has anyone suggested the OP gives their an actually enjoyable treat? A small bar, home made boring muffin to a Mars bar, flapjack or anything else that actually will have NO impact on their growing up may just be ok?

Your child needs to learn she can't have what everyone else has.

It's not up to a school to ban sugary foods it's up to the parents.

In this situation, as you have already acknowledged, your daughter is the only person in the wrong. She is going, she made a mistake, it has been dealt with.

I have to say, I'm suprised your school allow any other snacks. At my son's school (he's in reception) all KS1 children are provided with fruit/carrots etc. And milk. Nothing else is allowed. Not sure what they do at KS2 but I'm pretty sure it's fruit/veg only. Though I suppose they can't do much if parents choose to send something else.