to have declined to move my car.

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I live in a cul de sac. We don't have drive ways just residential parking at where the street ends. I came home from work and got my DD's dinner ready (she's 2.4) and sat her at her table to eat. Door gets rattled and my neighbour says "you're going to need to move your car please" I asked her if I was blocking someone in and she said no...she just wanted the parking space i used because it was closer to her house and she was going to have to park 70 yards up the street. She has a 4 year old and a 10 week old who was in a car seat. I asked her where she thought I was going to park and she said the place up the street I said to her my husband wasn't home and I didn't want to leave my daughter unattended in the house (the way the street winds the house wouldn't be visible from where she expected me to park the car) she got really huffy and said I was being unreasonable that she would have to carry a car seat down the street with her baby. I apologised and said I wasn't willing to leave my daughter alone in the house. It's a rubbish street for parking - built when people didn't have cars so it cant cope with the volume that's now using the street and parked on it.

I feel bad but also a bit annoyed that she rattled my door to demand I move my car.

WIBU?

As pp's have said, she could either take the bloody baby out of the car seat or use the pram base.

I hardly ever took my car seat out of my car; it was such a pain to get in and out for a start. I'm really not sure about these poor little babies who seem to spend hours strapped into the same car seat moved between car pushchair and house; it can't be doing their muscle development much good.

Ooh a rare AIBU where (I think) everyone agrees YANBU.

Your neighbor is nuts and entitled.

I wonder if her car will be blocking you in in the morning ...??

70 whole yards. Boo. Hoo. Plenty of people walk further than this on a daily basis with a baby and a child in tow. YANBU

no way and sorry noones kid out trumps you-i know its hard when u dont have desginated parking but u know that when u buy a place

dont even worry about it

Once, about 5 years ago when I was visiting someone who lived at the end of a dead end street I parked a short distance away . The other side of the pavement on my side was an empty field. There were houses on the opposite side of the average width road. An old chap came out of one of these houses and told me I couldn't park there as it was opposite his house and would make it difficult for him to back out of his driveway! No cars parked his side of street, either. I told him if he was unable to reverse out he should surrender his driving licence!

I couldn't park outside my front door either... (not yet got a car that can drive up flights of steps) I used to use a sling for ds when little and a back pack when old enough to get him up and down as dd needed helping too.

I bet she has a travel system, just has to pop the seat on the wheels!!

I can't believe she came to your door, steel yourself for her DP coming round to tell you we're unreasonable.

She has a 4 year old and a 10 week old. She has probably had no sleep in three months and is in the middle of 2nd child fog that I at least experienced. Bless her.

Think you could have been a bit more sympathetic to the fact she has a 10 week old in your reply. Not moving the car is fine, just no need to be so het up about it. Hopefully she will be able to laugh about her moment of insanity when she looks back.

I wouldn't say she is entitled (unless she has form for this) but exhausted.

"Think you could have been a bit more sympathetic to the fact she has a 10 week old in your reply."

What the blue fuck has the 10 week old baby got to do with the OP?

The OP didnt tell her to have a baby. Why should the OP be guilt tripped because of someone elses child?

If the neighbour cant handle the throes of life with children, she should have kept her legs closed (which would probably have saved her energy for walking 70-dd yards down the street with nothing to carry).

You sound as unhinged as the crazy neighbour @Want2bSupermum.

Having new baby fog is fine. When it gets to the point you are demanding neighbours move their car because you want their space it's gone to far.

Ywnbu OP. She was the one who got shitty.

When I moved in here I parked outside my house. The woman from next door knocked on my door and asked me to move as she prefers parking outside my house and had done so while it was empty. I laughed as I thought it was a joke. She wasn't best pleased her favourite parking space wasn't available anymore. Apparently where I parked wasn't her problem.

I just don't get some people's thought process.

I am a bit inclined to feel sorry for her. No, she didn't have any right to your space, and was unreasonable to expect you to move. But she's probably shattered, so don't hold it against her.

A lot of responses on the thread are a bit "entitled bitch!" But I don't get that from your OP. You did feel sorry for her, but couldn't really help. There's no need to feel bad. Walking 70m with a car seat isn't such a big deal.

I agree hardcore, 2 young kids is hard work, many of us have been there, but most of us don't demand other people do things. Her attitude was appalling and she did behave like an entitled bitch.

I agree it shouldn't be held against her. She was probably having one of those days where the worlds against you, and the parking was the last straw.
However OP you did nothing wrong, I would just forget it unless she starts a spat over it / demands you move in future, in which case just stand your ground.

Not moving the car is fine, just no need to be so het up about it.

Where on earth do you get the idea OP is "het up", Want2be?

"Are you on glue?" Was the correct response.

Seriously she's mad to knock and ask you to move your car. Some people are very entitled.

Ywdnbu what a stupid entitled
bitch who does she think she is the queen so she thinks it's ok for you leave your 2 yo child in the house on her own for a lot longer than it would take her to get her kids out of the car she's unreal.

I don't have kids but still wouldn't move my car from a space it was legitimately parked in.

Ynbu, there's common courtesy and entitlement. I used to live above a business which was owned by my landlord. There were restrictions all up and down the road except outside my front door which only had 1 hour of no parking and a HUGE pavement. So I would end up parked right down the end of the road and open my door to see this! My landlord said I was unreasonable for having a problem with her customers parking there and if I ever had guest and had them park there I would get banging on the door from her aggressive staff! I couldn't even get my daughters car seat out of my door when someone was there so would be trapped in the flat. I now have a drive and am so thankful. People can be unbelievable!

She has a 10 week old! Some of these replies are beyond harsh.

OP in this case I don't think YWBU to not move your car - it might be a nice gesture though to pop round with some nice biscuits or something. I'm sure you can remember how tough it can be at that age.

Having a 10 week old baby doesn't generally make people totally irrational does it? Especially when you have an older child and life as you know it very much goes on (only far, far more slowly esp when trying to leave the house).

Having a 10 week old baby doesn't generally make people totally irrational does it?

It can do. I can totally imagine coming back from a really tough trip, just wanting to get into the house and cry Finding out I couldn't get parked and was going to have to deal with getting the four year old and the baby out of the car and then walk the 70 yards home (and do the same in reverse the next day) could totally tip me over the edge

Some people have ten week olds and a toddler and no car - how far do they have to walk with all the associated shit?!

YANBU OP.