To do this

[underwalter]

Have no one to spend Christmas with.

AIBU to put up a Facebook status saying if anything can stand to have me I'd be happy.

Or am I just going to make people feel uncomfortable?

Thanks but I think it would just be awkward

Have not yet RTFT but honestly, it is one day.

I have spent several Christmases alone and it is fine. Just do what you want, when you want, how you want. If you want a big dinner, make one. If you don't, don't (ditto with whatever you like to do or not do).

Making such a big deal of BEING ALL ALONE will of course make you worry and fret and ultimately have a shit time. You can choose to look at it from another angle.

I would not dream of asking other people to host me if they have not offered. I would feel like such an imposition at a time where people would feel very awkward about saying no.

I know. I've spent Christmas alone since 1997. So sometimes you want a change. You know?

How about you look into volunteering someplace for xmas? It would get you out and to meet new people.

But I do agree with your last paragraph.

Christmas is still too far away for the 'What are you doing for Christmas?' conversations to have started.

I do wonder whether nearer the time when people start talking about Christmas and ask you what you're up to that you might find invites forthcoming.

Maybe. I wouldn't have thought so. People tend to spend it with their own families.

OP I hear you. Slightly but not totally in the same boat.

My Xmas for the last 7 years since I split with my ex has consisted of spending Xmas Day from around 10.30 - 3.30 at my parents' house, so I basically leave not too long after lunch then drive home. I will spend the rest of the day on my own. I will spend Boxing Day on my own, and the day after that and the day after that. I won't hear from anyone either. Everyone is either at home with their own families or away with their own families. I am dreading Xmas this year as the one decent part of it was spending time with my only other relative, who died appallingly this summer. My parents and I get on but we're not close. I go home because otherwise they just sit there watching TV for the rest of the day and barely speak. So may as well go home.

My friends know this is what Xmas is like but only one, bless them, has ever invited me to pop over Xmas Day night or Boxing Day in all this time. They basically have all their kids and parents or in laws to cope with for a few days, no time for us singletons.

Re: volunteering which several have suggested. As a PP said, most Xmas shelter programmes have this all sewn up months ahead (personally, because I work for a charity, and do volunteering during the year, part of me wants Xmas to be different).

Go volunteer! That's my plan if I'm ever alone.

elderly /homeless/care homes etc would love to have an Xmas visitor. My Dad had dementia and he'd have loved for you to come and wish him a merry Xmas even though he hadn't a scooby who you were ( he hadn't a scooby who we were last Xmas either !)

I don't think I was clear! What I was trying to say is that at this point no one will realise that you're alone for Christmas. Nearer the time, everyone seems to make general conversation of 'What are you up to for Christmas?'. When you say that you're spending it alone I would have thought you'll get an invite to join someone in whatever they've already planned to do.

I would never see one of my friends spend Christmas alone without inviting them to join me wherever I would be.

I don't want to sound rude but I don't want to volunteer. I don't mean not ever but not on Christmas Day.

Shatner - yeah, it's hard

I think my friends know but don't. Like in the same way if you had a friend who didn't drive but you probably wouldn't give much thought to how they got about. It's like that for me. I just don't think they've thought about it.

I planned to spend Christmas alone one year (different scenario I know) after three years running of Christmas at my parents' house being distressing for different reasons.

I had it all worked out in my head and was really looking forward to making myself a posh brunch, then having a long walk along the Thames (I lived in London at the time), then putting some Christmas music on and cooking myself a mini Christmas dinner with all my favourite bits in the afternoon and watching films.

I was really quite cheesed off when my brother's family also decided not to go to my parents' that year for the same reasons and invited me to join them which I couldn't very well say no to. I did have a nice time with them but I think I could have enjoyed a self-indulgent Christmas where I didn't have to think about anyone else.

Could you turn your situation on its head and plan a day of doing what you want and turn it into a treat?

But that's kind of every day when I'm not working, do you see my dilemma?

It is difficult!

I invited myself to friends' for Christmas day last year just because I thought it would be fun and a change from the usual family Christmas. However, I was 99% confident that they would be pleased to have me and they always have another single friend of theirs with them for Christmas so I knew I wouldn't be the only one gatecrashing their family Christmas.

I just had an idea, though it might be your idea of hell Have you heard of 'MeetUps'? I just Googled and if you're in a city there seem to be a few Christmas Day meetups being organised. It might be awful or it might be a laugh!