To do this

[underwalter]

Have no one to spend Christmas with.

AIBU to put up a Facebook status saying if anything can stand to have me I'd be happy.

Or am I just going to make people feel uncomfortable?

I don't think so :)

Any single parent friends?

I wouldn't put up a status like that, but perhaps something along the lines of "quiet Christmas for me this year. Binge watching Netflix - i better stock mince pies and Baileys for one. Bliss!"

Someone is sure to come back with comments and it might start a dialogue that will end in an invitation.

Um, why would someone be like "oooh hun, come round to mine" when you have said "bliss".

I would 1) msg some friends directly and if no joy then 2) put a post up saying "Does anyone fancy having an extra for Christmas lunch? I'll bring the bailies and desert" or something.

If I knew one of my friends had had no one to spend xmas with and hadn't asked me I would be annoyed with them for not asking me directly! One extra for lunch is no drama.

If you're in Somerset (unlikely I know) pm me and you can join my large and mad but fun family on the day!

Have you thought about volunteering at a homeless shelter? Crisis runs in London and Birmingham bit also many other places, homeless shelters, local old folks homes etc perhaps?

If you do put something on fb, Dec don't finish with "bliss" as suggested - be honest that you are spending it alone and wish you weren't.
.good luck x

As a PP suggested, I'd say,"anyone up for meeting up on Christmas Day?" Even if you don't get a lunch invitation you may end up having a walk or a beer with someone.

Post ' Going to be on my own this Christmas, anyone doing anything and have room for another one?'

I don't really want to message people directly as then they feel obliged to say yes! Could be embarrassing if they don't want you ha ha. And I'd be worrying if they wanted me or just felt they had to be polite!

And it's not exactly that I don't want to be alone. Just rather would be with a friend if it doesn't inconvenience them :)

"I appreciate most of you are busy on Christmas Day but if anyone is at a loose end (like me!) and would like some company, which I certainly do, for lunch, a walk or a drink etc then please let me know."

Not too full on, offers the pleasure of your company as well as you having the benefit of theirs. And I don't think it sounds too maudlin?

Everyone always says to volunteer at Christmas but you have to have your name down by Feb in most places- it's one of the busiest days for volunteers. There's a lot of people who don't celebrate but end up not working, I suppose!

I don't think it's odd. I think most people will assume everyone has somewhere to go. I bet if they knew, they'd offer.

This is very true. A few people have invited me since realising that as I'm orphaned I may have nowhere to go. Before that became obvious, they didn't invite - I think everyone presumes you're busy! Definitely talk to your friends.

I think Grill has it spot on. I def wouldn't ask someone directly, too much pressure and could be very uncomfortable.

I'm in North London op. Christmas is a bit dull for us cos we're a small family so you'd be extra welcome if you'd like to come. There'll be me, my 87 year old but very sharp Italian mum, my daughter and 20 month old grandson x

Grilledaubergines's message is good. Fm friendly. Upbeat. Proactive. Honest.

I had a Christmas alone (through choice!) and almost everyone who knew invited me to join them, even work colleagues I didn't know very well. They thought I was declining out of politeness and were very insistent, but I turned them all down.

However it was heartwarming to know that so many people didn't want to see someone alone at Christmas, so I'm confident that once your friends are aware you'll get plenty of offers.

It's nice people are inviting me here but I could be an axe murderer!

I think I'll leave the Facebook thing. Puts too much pressure on people. Thanks :)

Do it

Probably not the best idea!

Op are YOU happy to post that status? You know your FB friends and how they'll react. It's quite a vulnerable status but if you're happy for everybody who you are FB friends with to read it then I think it's fine.
Perhaps a bit less direct, just make a comment about having a quiet Christmas (more mince pies for me!) then people won't feel quite so guilty?

I don't think I am! But I don't know how to tell people I want to be with them either!

So it's alright to go on Facebook begging for a baby sitter or sell your crap but it's not ok to post on Facebook asking if anyone has a place for someone at Christmas....have a word with yourself.

Of course it's ok OP and I would invite you if you were one of my friends. I only have friends on my Facebook that I actually care about because quality is better than quantity in my book.

"It's quite a vulnerable status but if you're happy for everybody who you are FB friends with to read it then I think it's fine."

If the OP were to post a status, it would be easy enough for her to customise it before posting so that it only shows up to people she'd be comfortable with either reading it or receiving a Christmas invite from

How about inviting people to spend Christmas with you OP? Would that work? Something along the lines of having too much turkey for one, if anyone would like to join you? That way you're not imposing yourself on anyone and it would give people the opportunity to invite you to theirs instead.

I don't really know anybody tbh. No one who hasn't got their own family anyway :)

I'd post grilled 's message but customise it so only those you are happy to see it can see it. Anyone seeing it will think everyone can so won't feel any obligation. Anyone like me who thinks "the more the merrier" will be glad to have a chance to invite you xx