DS has lost his gym kit AGAIN

[MythicalChicken]

AIBU to be absolutely fucking furious? Money is so tight for us at the moment, I just cannot afford to replace it. DH and I work extremely long hours in jobs we hate, I have a horrible 3 hour-a-day commute to said job. In spite of working all the hours god sends we are just getting deeper and deeper into debt. We aren't even getting anywhere. We will never own our own home. We hardly ever see the kids as we are always at work. Life is miserable and we are constantly broke...

This is the third time this term that DS has lost his entire gym kit. He has checked lost property, it isn't there. It isn't at home.

DH has said he won't replace it again and DS will have to not do PE for the rest of the year. I am tempted to agree. Is this unreasonable? DS loves PE. He is 11 and a half.

Does your ds have pocket money? I would be tempted to dock it

Have you spoken to the school? What has DS said about it? TBH I'd be furious too and thinking along the same lines as you re: no P.E. - will
School not have something to say about it though?

No, he doesn't have pocket money.

DS said it's everybody else's fault for not handing it into Lost Property .

... school are a bit bemused by it, tbh, but it's not really the teacher's responsibility.

I agree. No PE kit. Personal responsibility is a lesson learnt!

However, you sound deeply stressed and unhappy. Are you ok?

So he's refusing to take responsibility. That would make me cross

No I'm not Vivienne, but thanks for asking. I appreciate it.

Is he at secondary school? DS's school has spare kit that can be borrowed. DS reckons it's a bit manky so DC tend not to like doing this, but it might encourage your DS to find his stuff

He's in the last year of primary. No, no skanky old gym kit which is a shame really as I think that might cure him.

Is there any unnamed kit in lost property? Can't he just take that?

I would tell the school he isn't doing gym then.

It is a bit odd for him to lose 3 lots of gym kit at primary school in such a short space of time. Is anything else going missing? Does he hate it so he is throwing it somewher?

No, they don't have spare kit.

Is it school branded PE kit (it really shouldn't be in primary!) If it is, could you just tell the school he will be wearing cheaply ASDA kit (or similar)?

I actually think we have some old PE kit that size, I would be happy to send it to you? (I know you're not asking btw). PM me if any use?

Do they still make kids do PE in pants and vest? (JOKE!) .

But seriously, I'd be wants to participate, he'll have to wear the wrong gear. Tough luck for him.

Is someone taking it? Can he explain how he loses it ie doesn't he put it on the peg?
Is it labelled?

Is he usually forgetful about stuff

That's really sweet of you pink. Thank you for the offer. He loves PE so I think he should be banned from doing it. But then I wonder if we are being a bit harsh. It isn't DS's fault that we are broke. Maybe I expect too much of him but I wish he would look after his stuff as we can't afford to keep replacing it.

This latest kit, he said he left it outside in the yard and then it was gone .

Send him in with an old t shirt and shorts. The proper stuff will turn up, probably on the last day of the summer term when a random pe bag is discovered in another classroom where it has been sitting since November.

PE kit for Christmas?

We had the same situation. My daughter is a similar age and lost her whole pe kit during the first half term. Now she has lost her winter coat which hasn't been seen since start of October and as for house keys I've lost count of the number that I've had cut.

I'm sick of having to replace stuff because she cannot or will not look after her belongings.

Putthatonyourneedles .

I feel your pain. I started a thread sometime ago saying that santa is going to replace Ds' PE kit. (He is 14 years old and still loses tons) At the moment he is using Tesco s unbranded cheaply shorts and t shirt for PE. Secondary school PE kit is desperately expensive.

Yeah, I am thinking of 'Santa' replacing his gym kit as his present, but I wonder if that's a bit mean?

Can you afford to buy a plain t-shirt and a plain pair of shorts?
Have his trainers gone as well?

It isn't mean, it's a valuable life lesson. He'll be at secondary soon and looking stuff left, right and centre will cost you a fortune.

We started charging ds1 for lost items aged 9. As he only got £1 week pocket money this was a serious consequence. 1 lost jumper and 1 lost watch later he finally became very careful about looking after his stuff and looking for it properly immediately that he'd misplaced something.