Pregnant, the dad has passed...help

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Hi I'm not sure if this in the right place but I'll ask anyway...
I am 25 and pregnant with my second child but the dad has recently passed away in a road accident. I have a child from a previous relationship (5) but his dad is not in the picture (hasn't been since my son was 11 months) I want this baby as it was planned and the dad and I had known each other for over 9 years but only got together 2 years ago due to various reasons, I guess I'm scared to go this alone incase people think bad of me having 2 children neither with dad's, is it fair on the baby if I carry on with the pregnancy? Am I doing the right thing? I feel so confused and lost :(

So very sorry for your loss .

You said you don't know if it's fair to have the baby knowing they'll grow up without a dad, but what if this had happened once the baby was born? You'd have had no choice then and would just have had to make the best of it. There are no guarantees any child will have their dad around as these tragedies can happen to anyone at any time, but what your baby will have is a loving mum, brother and other family around.

This baby will give you and your partner's family something of him to keep his memory alive and hopefully bring you all some comfort. I hope your pregnancy goes well

Hi OP. I'm so sorry for your loss. My DH died suddenly when I was pregnant with DD2. I'll try and pop back later and write more but if you want to talk PM me. DD2 is currently climbing all over me.. (She's 2.5 years)

Wishing you and your family peace and health, you sound lovely, I'm sure you'll be a lovely mum to a much wanted child.

Thank you all for your comments, I feel bad even considering a termination, this baby will be very loved and I'll make sure she/he knows about its daddy

Don't feel bad about considering it - grief and shock lead to whole manner of thoughts we wouldn't otherwise entertain. I hope you are feeling at peace with your decision and can start to feel some joy about your pregnancy. It really is the most wonderful news in some terrible circumstances.

Roo

OP re the birth certificate issue - I have two friends who had to go through the necessary process to get their late partner on the birth certificate. They will gladly help you. Just PM me if needed.