to want to remove my ILs from my life?

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My head is completely muddled and I don't know what I can do anymore. I've honestly tried but I don't think these people can be part of my life. I've no problem with their relationship with my DH or DC.

I could get into the ins and outs of it but there is too much. I feel as if there is too much history to mend it.

They're completely different people to what I've ever witnessed or who I am. That's fine. But they completely undermine me and make me feel little. I just feel horrible about myself and I feel as if my family would have an easier life without me causing this fuss.

I'm sorry I'm rambling and this is not even beginning to explain things but I just need someone to talk to. Is it possible for me to remove them from my life, or should I just put up and shut up? I need to do something as I can't deal with all their comments running around my head.

From your last post I can understand a bit better why the in laws might be hurt about the change in dynamic. I can imagine having what I thought was a lovely close involved relationship with you & DH, and being shocked when for no reason it suddenly stopped - if I didn't get that this closeness was only because of his working schedule.

However, that doesn't explain away their massive rage and over stepping of boundaries. Their reaction is to behave terribly so you fall in line with their need to overly control your family life. It's disproportionate and sounds quite scary actually. Which is probably the idea tbh.

Did you or Dh explain it's not because you don't care about them (etc etc), but because his job hours have changed so the situation is different?

This kind of person does need handling and clear expectations of behavior and boundaries. Hard work...

MiscellaneousAssortment Mon 21-Nov-16 09:18:16

excellent clear posts there op,^^ fromMiscellaneous.

Has anyone seen The Little House?
Op it was a short series on ITv I thinkwww.imdb.com/title/tt1743899/

About a MIL who cunningly slowly drove her dil mad so she could have control over her son again and her grandchild without pesky dil getting in the way.

A fantasy of many mils!

op have you thought about Relate counseling with your DH? Relate are very experienced in - these issues, as they are so common and they will help shore you and your dh up with the boundaries, tips and emotional help as well?

It staggers me anyone thinks its ok to ask for a key.

sorry op, have I missed somewhere you have declared you are an anorexic?