This happened earlier this year, but what followed was very traumatic (and in my other threads) so I think it didn't occur how significant it was.
In brief, I was at the hospital with new boyfriend with suspected kidney infection. There had been some red flags re controlling behaviour and I was considering finishing the relationship. (These got much much worse later).
While at the hospital in a & e, he could not handle the wait times, was pacing and getting angry, and trying to hassle the reception desk to push me up the list.
The a& e were very very busy and clearly really ill people around, and I pleaded with him to stop and to just wait sit and wait our turn, I was crying really upset but he wouldn't stop. He kept disappearing and tried to get in the back way twice through where the ambulances were and into to the main area where you are seen with the cubicles. (You can only get in there when you are called)
Eventually he achieved this, had 'made friends' with a young male nurse and he said watch we will be seen soon. We were called soon, but I didn't know if we would have been anyway at that point. I should add that I was really angry about this, as it is completely against my morals, I was really shocked about his behaviour, I was also very weak physically.
So I go in, have tests done, blood pressure, urine tests, bloods etc then back out to wait again.
Later on he disappears again, and he is comes out of that area again (where cubicles are) and he calls me in. The male nurse from before is there and they both have my results on the computer screen, my ex is holding my notes.
The nurse then tells while my ex is there that I am pregnant and that I also have kidney infection, and am dehydrated.
- Shouldn't they have asked me whether I was ok for him to be there for medical results? I would have said I wasn't ok with it and it may well have changed the course of what happened after, which was weekly escalating abuse while I was pregnant and terrifying.
- A female doctor I saw later did ask whether I wanted him in the room (while having gynae exam) and I said no, he really kicked off about this but I had only been seeing him 6 weeks ffs he said he had a right because I was now pregnant
- I have always had a nagging feeling that he knew I was pregnant before I did by the way he reacted.
What would you do? I would hate another woman to go through that. The male nurse must have thought he was doing a ' favour' or he was bribed...as my ex was very charming and always got what he wanted, but if only he knew what the consequences were.
There was another incident later the same night with another nurse that involved them taking blood from me and leaving the band on too long while they did it, resulting in me passing out and blood everywhere so overall, a very stretched hospital clearly...