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AIBU?

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Aibu over xmas presents for ds?

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StarsandSparkles · 19/11/2016 14:28

My ds is 17 months old and for his xmas ive got him a 3 in 1 playset thats a pop up house with tunnel and ball pit with balls that i ordered off amazon, a sleeping bag with sleeves, a pair of wellies, and some new jammies and a big book of nursery rhymes and stories.
My sister seems to think this isnt enough and that i should be getting him more as what im getting him is boring as he wont like it?! He loves the ball pit at the soft play and would be in his glory with his own one at home
I had applied for a budgeting loan from the job centre as my cooker has gave up but im U according to her to buy a cooker and not get ds more presents.
Aibu to tell her to piss off and leave me to it?

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Welshrainbow · 19/11/2016 16:15

YANBU and a working cooker is definitely a priority over presents. My DC is 17 months and probably has a similar number of presents and even with those I know he will be overwhelmed and probably far more interested in the wrapping anyway.

Welshrainbow · 19/11/2016 16:16

Also slightly off topic but where did you get a sleeping bag with sleeves? Why have I never seen one of these!

grannytomine · 19/11/2016 16:16

When my son was slightly younger than yours I excitedly wrapped up all his presents and put some balloons on top of the sack, made it look bulkier. Took us two days to persuade him to stop playing with the balloons and open some of the presents. The next year I didn't make that mistake but my aunt bought him a tin of chocolate fingers, guess what his favourite present was?

Your presents sound great, just avoid the balloons and chocolate fingers and you will be fine.

Trifleorbust · 19/11/2016 16:19

You are absolutely right to buy him a few lovely things that he will enjoy, and to avoid getting into substantial debt to buy him a load of tat. Tell her she is welcome to spend as much money on him as she likes

Portobelly · 19/11/2016 16:21

He'll appreciate daily hot meals, and a sensible mum far more than a blow out Christmas.

Plus.
What you're listing sounds ace! My ds would be thrilled
(We are only getting him brio train set stuff, knowing that we'd prefer to respond to his growing and developing interests over the year instead of a big focus at Christmas)

bruffin · 19/11/2016 16:27

POp up houses and tunnels (along with lego) were the most played with toys in our house. They were still playing with them until they were gone 10 and the mouse in the garage ate the tent.

blueturtle6 · 19/11/2016 16:30

We have the 3 in 1 play set you describe, it is fab!!! My dd loves the house the best and puts her treasures in there. I tend to buy dd stuff as she needs it so she's getting two toy cars for Xmas and full days play with mummy!

blueturtle6 · 19/11/2016 16:32

Welsh rainbow, you can get the sleeping bags with sleeves from verbaudet, also to Maxx often have them in.

ClassmateHB · 19/11/2016 16:33

At that age my son got a Thomas train track, and dressing up outfits, and some bath toys in a stocking. They don't need more, especially with family and friends. They're not even going to remember it!

PickAChew · 19/11/2016 16:33

Yanbu and you're right - getting into debt for Christmas is pretty senseless.

haveacupoftea · 19/11/2016 16:34

You're being very sensible.

creativevoid · 19/11/2016 16:37

I think you are being really sensible OP. I am not in financial straits and that's about what I would buy for a toddler. Giving children more and more and more isn't in their best interests and in this case you definitely need the money for more important things. Be proud that you are teaching DS the right priorities.

Shockers · 19/11/2016 16:55

When my two youngest were small, I completely went off Christmas as my mum bought them so much stuff, they couldn't possibly have appreciated it all. It just became an unwrapping fest. I became more upset by it as the years passed.

Now, we wake, have breakfast, they open a couple of presents, then we go for a long walk with the dogs and some friends while the bird roasts.

We come home, have hot chocolate, and open some more. I finish making dinner, we eat, play a game, then open the rest.

I love it. Everything is appreciated and looked at. There are fewer presents, but the giving goes on all day.

It's not about the amount of presents, it's about the appreciation!

And the dinner... get that cooker sorted .

Musicalmistress · 19/11/2016 17:25

I haven't read the whole thread, sorry, but I think that sounds perfect for a wee one his age! It's all too easy to get caught in the trap of buying loads of expensive crap that they don't need and don't really know they've got so I think you've done really well - things he needs/will love within a sensible budget

mygorgeousmilo · 19/11/2016 17:40

That's loads! Anyway, you must prioritise having something to cook with, that's what you need, not a tonne of presents. He won't know the difference, and plus he'll love the ball pit!

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StarsandSparkles · 19/11/2016 17:44

welshrainbow i have saw them on amazon also ebay have them too. If memory seves me right they were around £25+ on ebay depending on what size you went for

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Gingernut81 · 19/11/2016 17:44

What you're describing is exactly what we're thinking of for DD who's 14 mths. I think people go way over the top with presents and really don't see the point in spending for the sake of it (or do that I can be one of people who posts the massive pile of pressies on FB). I think you're being really sensible not overspending & making your priority.

Aeroflotgirl · 19/11/2016 17:47

Ignore your sister, you are his mum, and you know what he will like. He is only 17 months old and will not understand what its all about.

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StarsandSparkles · 19/11/2016 17:54

Shes just text and told me she has got him loads so he can appreciate someone "spoiling him" i honestly despair hes 1yr old ffs he doesnt need spoiling in fact he doesnt need spoiling at any age. I want my son to grow up to appreciate things not get as soon as he says i want

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PervyMuskrat · 19/11/2016 18:28

welshrainbow The Slumbersac website often has discounts and offers on if you buy from directly from them.

StarsandSparkles you sound like a great (and very sensible!) mum, you will have a wonderful Christmas with delicious food from your new cooker

8misskitty8 · 19/11/2016 18:51

What you have for him is plenty, he's only 1 year old.
Has your sister always been like this ?
I'd text back telling her to take what she has bought back to the shop. I might also be inclined to not see the sister on Christmas Day.

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StarsandSparkles · 19/11/2016 19:18

Yes shes always been over the top and spends what she hasnt got and she wonders why shes up to her eyes in debt.

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Aeroflotgirl · 19/11/2016 20:23

Let her do what she wants, what ou have bought is more than enough.

YellowCrocus · 19/11/2016 20:31

He's a baby! He'll enjoy opening the toys and honestly wouldn't get any more out of it if you bought him more. Blow us lots of balloons for him and enjoy the bubbles. Have a lovely day. You are totally doing the right thing and your sister is being incredibly childish.

Lesley1980 · 19/11/2016 20:52

My 19 month old is getting Duplo, a shape sorter basket thing & a fisher price thing. Last year she got 3 books & a teddy. They don't know or care.

It would be crazy to get into debt for Xmas & in particular when they are so young.

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