I've just sold my,story to a magazine...

[PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel]

And I need to vent.

Past caring if this outs me.

About ten years ago I took my abuser to court. Two of my family members were extremely angry, and confronted me. The night resulted in me being kicked down two flights of stairs, and, as a result, my DS was born sleeping.

They've made my life hell,since. Trolled me on social media, etc. Around the time of the court case, it was picked up by a local newspaper, because of the unusual circumstances. I waived my right to anonymity, because I wanted to encourage others to come out.

Recently, the two family members have been trawling my facebook friends list, etc, and sharing the article (it's still searchable online) along with comments like "little slut broke up a family" etc.

So I decided to a) piss on their bonfire, and b), do something worthwhile. Again, if I can offer hope to just one victim out there, then it'll be worth it.

The shit will hit the fan now. I'll be called a lying, attention seeking twat.

You are an amazing woman. Your children are very lucky to have you. You have courage, bravery and dignity. What's not to admire. You could be bitter, sad, angry and depressed yet despite your pain, you choose to be the good in the world. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you only happiness, health and good fortune. You deserve it so very much. Be happy forever.

Thank you for sharing.

. You are a brave inspirational woman who deserves nothing but good things

You really are amazing! Your DC are so lucky to have you
And nothing you've said has offended me. It's actually strangely refreshing to hear someone just talking straight about it. I think the no nonsense approach works well for me; I've only ever really experienced people tip-toeing around the issue before.

I told my DD (I've never hidden anything from her) and she says she'd like to "say something in the magazine" (they sometimes do a quote at the end from family members) about raising awareness for kids whose parents have been abused. I had to hold myself back from sobbing!

Good luck for the future POP, they do say the best form of revenge is living well and being happy, which is obviously easier said than done when it comes to the psychological scars abuse can leave. You're proving that statement right.

I told my DD (I've never hidden anything from her) and she says she'd like to "say something in the magazine" (they sometimes do a quote at the end from family members) about raising awareness for kids whose parents have been abused. I had to hold myself back from sobbing!

Shit...prest "post" again by accident...

And actually, I must be quite brave...I "shared" in fucking AIBU of all places!

💚💙💚💙 to you brilliant lass! Bravo 👏

🌟You're awesome.

Lol Pop, you do have balls. I'm in awe.

Can you link us to the new article when it's published?

If you've shared in AIBU OP, you must have balls of steel!

Frankly, I think you're awesome. I've only just started therapy at 52. My counsellor gets really annoyed at me for not sharing. Bless her - she deserves a medal. I'll open up more at our next meeting. You've inspired me to just let it out now. Thank you

Ager the first time is the hardest. Do it. Or just give it hell on here, so it's just that bit easier next time...

Ager it's not easy to talk about. I find it so much easier to type things out on here than to talk about them face to face in therapy (most of the time I'm silent there too or go off on tangents!). Your counsellor would understand that if she's a trauma expert.

"Hearts* if I don't get thrown off for doing so!

The editor-interviewer-thingy called me up and said, "first of all, you have my deepest, deepest sympathies..." At which point I interrupted him and said (RUDE!😁) "With the deepest respect, love, if that's going to be the tone of the article, you can fuck right off!" He laughed...luckily! way to offend the media, huh?

*Unicorn has it, again, spot the fuck on! It really is like being violated all over again. Swear and rant at us! You can call me a cuntpuffon if you like... {grin]

Pop and Unicorn I write things down as I find it easier. I'll show her my poetry - it'll clarify things for her. She complains about my lack of passion and my monotone way of talking to her. She doesn't understand that it's my way of dealing with things.

You amaze me. In a fan-fucking-tastic way.

Were your sisters convicted of killing your baby or did they get away with it?

What everyone else said. There needs to be people like you who speak out for the ones who can't.
Respect to you my friend.

Pop I think you are th most incredible example I've ever come across of "glass half full", actually, glass overflowing.

You are an absolute rock

Your actions will make a huge difference to a lot of people, some evidenced already on this thread.

and I know you've bollocked people for sympathy but I'm sorry you had to go through that to get to where you are

Without going into any of the finer detail, I have as my mantra

If you can only ever help one person it's worth taking that chance.

To you all

Woah, she complains??? Does she not understand trauma at all?? Sounds like you dissociate and why the hell wouldn't you? Plus there is no way known I would feel comfortable talking if I didn't trust the person of feel they were understanding and compassionate. Now I'm angry on your behalf!