I've just sold my,story to a magazine...

[PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel]

And I need to vent.

Past caring if this outs me.

About ten years ago I took my abuser to court. Two of my family members were extremely angry, and confronted me. The night resulted in me being kicked down two flights of stairs, and, as a result, my DS was born sleeping.

They've made my life hell,since. Trolled me on social media, etc. Around the time of the court case, it was picked up by a local newspaper, because of the unusual circumstances. I waived my right to anonymity, because I wanted to encourage others to come out.

Recently, the two family members have been trawling my facebook friends list, etc, and sharing the article (it's still searchable online) along with comments like "little slut broke up a family" etc.

So I decided to a) piss on their bonfire, and b), do something worthwhile. Again, if I can offer hope to just one victim out there, then it'll be worth it.

The shit will hit the fan now. I'll be called a lying, attention seeking twat.

I didn't actually know I could make my facebook totally blank. They make fake profiles every few weeks anyway. So much anger! Is it wrong to pity them, and not hate them? Not a stealth boast- PLEASE don't think this- but I have everything...stability, happiness and peace- they have anger, vengeance and spite. Christ in a Plastic Pig, that must take up,some energy...

a way to discredit me

You were abused
You stood up to your abuser in court
Your family caused you to lose your son because of violence
Your family has harassed and stalked you ever since.

And they want to discredit you!? THEY are defending a rapist and they are murderers. Tell the to fuck off to the other side of fuck and then to fuck off some more just to make sure.

Cunts the lot of them to you

You, Jas, are amazing. Remember that always

Pop

Words fail me about what you've been though, I can't even begin to imagine the horror you are dealing with. So sorry for the loss of your DS

Well done to keep on being true to yourself.

you are incredibly brave.

Your story is one of strength. You are a survivor..

Your last post reminds me of how I parents ( I was never brave enough to even report abuse never mind the steps you have taken)

But I tell my DS all the time I love him I am so desperate he knows..I have to think through everything I do so I don't do what was normal to me when I grew up so I don't pass on the damage.

You deserve to be happy and hopefully when sisters are old enough will understand it was not your fault.

So your sisters blame you, to whom it happened from the age of 5, for not protecting them? How the hell is someone who has been abused since the age of five supposes to know how to stop it happening to them never mind their sisters? I'm so sorry it's happened to you but well done for having the courage to convict your mother of the horrendous abuse she must have put you through. And even more kudos for helping others in a similar position. There's no way if your sisters were thinking straight they would think you've haven't done what you can to protect others.

FWIW if they contacted me over Facebook I would reply that I'm even more proud to be friends with such a strong person

Overwhelmed...thank you. I'm really just "me" though? A sweaty fucker who,uses question marks at inappropriate times . It's just that I sort of believe we can use ANYTHING. When we're given shit- a whole mound of it- we can either get buried under it, or we can use it to build a (stinky) platform to stand on (or a little boat, if we're in a stupid mood!😁) to stand higher, no? My friends (nicely) call me Pollyanna- or "PollyFuckingAnna" in the words of my bf-turned-adoptive-mom 😁😁😁 Gets right on peoples D cups sometimes, but I don't think I would have survived this far without it.

I'm in awe of your clarity, your clear thinking, and how strong you sound to bravely tell your story as how wrong and sad was what you went through.
I think you could make an enormous difference to anyone else out there through your bravery facing this.

I hope you find lots of healing somehow too and so very sorry

No it's not wrong to pity them. I pity my abuser too, can't help it and I often think of that quote in Harry Potter where Harry says to Voldemort 'You're the weak one. You'll never know love or friendship and I feel sorry for you.' While these people have so much hate in their hearts they can never let anything else in and it's sad.

That article couldn't evoke anything but admiration for your strength and courage. You are a survivor.

Set your FB to 'friends only' and make sure no posts are public.

Select the option to hide your friend list, so only you can view it.

Starlight if you ever need to chat, just pm me. It's not about being brave...I'm scared of the fucking dark, flies, and charcoal! (Don't ask 😁). If you are secure where you are now, if you feel safe, happy, and loved, don't think yourself any less brave for not wanting to change that. Sorry if this is against the "normal" advice anyone would give, but I hear you.

You're utterly amazing

My dh wasn't brave enough and he's suffered massively over the years from the guilt

Luckily the fucker is dead now so he can't abuse anyone else

💐

Wow! Yep total attention seeker

You're one amazing lady and you've broke the cycle, you get to write your life story from now on not them and I bet it's going to be amazing x

Unicorn SPOT THE FUCK ON!!!!!! We have everything....DESPITE what they tried to take!!! We know love. We feel. We know right from wrong. I know this is SO wrong on MN but...💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

I think that you are amazing and if I received a message linking to that article, all I would feel is proud that you were my friend

You are an inspiration truly. Your "family" are weak minded, petty and soulless individuals. They've had more than enough of your time and energy. Time to take your life back. Please don't give them any more. I'm also a survivor.

Well done pop - you're very inspiring. I can imagine that your story will be helpful to lots of young people and will encourage them to speak out.

Pop - RESPECT.
You deserve a medal. But instead have a

No sympathy offered at all from me.

But I do want to say well done for speaking out, very well done.

People like the ones who are distributing the article to discredit you are doing so because in their fucked up heads because they believe it's your fault they think everybody else will as well.
When in reality any decent person thinks they are bastards

Shocked just like the "unusualness" (is that even a word? Fuck me running, I'm rewriting the Collins tonight!😁) of being abused by another female, I can sort of understand his sense of...how do I put it? Stigma? Again, it's not about being brave...it's about being at the right place in your head. He will when the time is right- or he may not. Many don't. Is he ok?

If it's wrong it shouldn't be! I've been told I'm 'too soft', have 'stockholm syndrome' etc. etc. No, I choose to follow love, empathy and compassion and I refuse to allow what happened to ruin my life. I don't forgive him and the anger and the pain are there, probably always will be but I refuse to let myself become what they are.

I know your story will continue to help people to speak out and speak up and that is a wonderful thing to have been able to give.

. 😁