So totally going to get flamed but I have a close member of my family who is a bit 'wet'. He is a loving man. Kind and caring his wife has asked me for advice. I think I kind of know the answer but I'm not with her 24/7 in their relationship. He holds a high powered job. However at home he likes his wife to take control and she said she's fed up of it. I said he might be tired after a 'controlling' day at work. However she is concerned he's started asking her to take control in the bedroom! At first she said it was exciting but she said she misses being chased and is always the instigator (which turns him on). I've met her in-laws a few times. His mother is a total control freak! She controls his father. So I've said to her (basic psychology) is he's just like his dad. She is also controlling though I don't think she sees it in her behaviour which I why I expect they're together. So she's said how do I get him to man up? The thing is I don't know what to say as to the outside world he is a hard working man in a high powered job! She is a SAHM to two lovely children. I kind of think he's lovely but I can see how the dynamics are upsetting her. Sorry it's a bit long. I've said you can't change him and she is BU thinking she can. I also don't think she could be with a controlling man as they would be at logger heads. Thoughts please?!