To think my friend shouldn't be making a profit from me.

[musingsofawannabemumpreneur]

First post here, please be gentle!

Back story: I sell second hand toys online. I have a friend whose LG loved the particular brand of toys which I sell, and so if she wanted any particular sets then I would sell them to my friend at cost, without making any profit on those items. Supply has always been an issue for me, i.e. I cannot find enough to buy to satisfy demand, so selling stuff on at no profit was a bit of a pain but I didn't mind as she's my friend and has done me lots of favours.

My friend's LG has now grown out of these toys, and I had always assumed hoped that my friend would sell these back to me at the same price when she was done with them, so I could sell them on and make a profit on them.

I saw last night that she is selling a set online, which I only sold her around 6 weeks ago. She's selling it for three times what I sold it to her for. I'm really cross about this, and feel she is profiting from me. I'm tempted to message her to request that I have "first dibs" on any more that she gets rid of. AIBU or should I just accept that I made a mistake by not profiting from my sales to a friend?

If you sell a £300k house to anyone for £100k, you're an idiot and the buyer isn't obliged to fuck themselves over so you can feel less daft.

Wow she's def taking the piss. YANBU. Don't give her any more ever. Is it possible she's been doing this all along??

I agree Sheba

A few people on here think that only mugs would do mates rates.

I'm a professional and I offer mates rates, and do one off performances for free in certain circumstances (e.g. Friends' weddings certain charity evenings).

I don't think anyone should be obliged to do this, but it's not being a mug- it's being generous and loving.

Mates rates are fine
So long as you accept that it ends there

Expecting first dibs on returned used goods is just daft

Stop the mates rates - she's taking you for a mug

OP I'd feel upset if I were you as this friend clearly knows that you've given her a good deal and is now taking the mick.

Not really a friend!

I had a "friend" who I've passed lots of toys and clothes on to. My ex left me around a year ago and she's offered no support, but sometimes drops hints about me passing on outgrown clothes. I've taken the 'hint' and will spend time with friends from now on.

Sorry, don't see what the friend is doing wrong. Would it be nice for her to sell them back to OP for price bought? Yes. Necessary? No.

Yanbu six weeks is ridiculous, not illegal but immoral and next time you'll know better

Fine to do "mates rates" or donate your time for free if you can afford it. However, cake making and other creative jobs are often freelance and it's often hard to get enough work in these competitive fields. So it doesn't seem right to expect someone to effectively give up what may be their only income that day/week/month, if none of the other guests/audience/attendees (many of whom will be on higher, regular salaries) are doing the same.

Oops, wrong thread - but similar sentiment!

You agreed the price, she bought them off you, you don't have any say in what happens next. You have no claim to them at all.
Don't sell her anything else and don't offer people discounts in future.

I can understand how your feeling about this, but as you say she wont be buying anymore from you, I would leave it be and move on. Your friend probably hasnt actually thought through what she has done, considered that when she bought it, that it was hers to do as she wanted with it.

As it was a gift for her grandchild in reality it then belongs to the grandchild who should be able to sell her toy when she has grown out of it and pop the money in her piggy bank, if that makes sense?

I personally think your friend just didn't realise how you would feel and maybe when she purchased from you, it should have been said, "this is a loan of a toy, and I will buy it back when you are finished with it..:)

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