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To keep her home from school for this?

66 replies

Floofborksnootandboop · 17/11/2016 22:52

Sorry for TMI

DD14 has had the most awful diorreha today, she describes it as weeing from her bum and has been sick once. She says other than that and a slight tummy ache she feels fine.

There is a nasty bug going around and the school sent out an email a week or so back saying to keep anyone with sickness or diorreha off school for the suggested 48hours after.

DD says she is absolutely fine to go to school and I wouldn't usually keep her off but I'm just not sure. DH says it's Friday so If she is poorly one day won't hurt then the whole weekend to rest and recover.

Wwyd?

TIA

OP posts:
JustDanceAddict · 18/11/2016 08:06

Keep her off for sure. I wouldn't even question it.

jayisforjessica · 18/11/2016 08:45

Bogeyface

HEAR HEAR.

harderandharder2breathe · 18/11/2016 09:09

Squirrel paws it's not a MN thing it's an NHS guidelines thing. When I've worked at scout camps we've always had this rule.

Meadows76 · 18/11/2016 09:30

As an aside, I find the 48-hour rule to be a peculiarly Mumsnet thing

Take a read of this link. It's the NHS guidelines. 48 hours.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/gastroenteritis/Pages/Introduction.aspx

SatsukiKusakabe · 18/11/2016 09:40

squirrelpaws we have had the 48 hour rule anywhere I've ever worked, at schools, playgroups etc, hospital wards. The people posting on Mumsnet have a corresponding avatar in the real world.

Yes, keep her off, I'm not sure what the reasons would be for going in - is it because of Children in Need she doesn't want to miss stuff? You don't spread this stuff around if you can help it, it's just general courtesy, and the idea of her getting caught out at school is just hideous.

OnTheEdgeOfItAll · 18/11/2016 09:41

The 48 hour rule is nhs advice. I am thoroughly fed up with ending up ill because people are so inconsiderate about spreading their illnesses because they 'feel fine' and think guidelines are a nonsense.
Wait until the person that 'feels fine' and ignores the guidelines is a chef or waiter, or a member of hotel staff. Why do you think they have problems with things like this on cruise ships?

Couchpotato3 · 18/11/2016 09:47

What's not to be sure about? There is no room for any doubt here. You need to show your DD that rules like this one are important and we all have a responsibility to look after each other. Letting her dodge the rule sends all the wrong messages. Please don't do it!

YoHoHoandabottleofTequila · 18/11/2016 10:09

Diarrhoea and vomiting is 48 hours, of course she should stay off.

Floofborksnootandboop · 18/11/2016 10:48

I kept her off, she woke up and got ready before I was even awake but I told her she can't go in today and she was happy to go straight back to bed. Grin

Why in earth do you even need to ask? She needs to stay at home and your husband is an idiot.

Because she'd only had diorreha for a few hours and said she was fine, and as a few others have said, 48 hour rule doesn't usually exist in secondary schools. It's more than likely she's just eaten something that doesn't agree with her, I have a gluten allergy but love cheese, pizza and pasta so as you can imagine... if I didn't work from home and actually had to leave the house for work and I stayed off for 2 days eveytime I have diorreha I'd never been in. How is my husband an idiot for saying what everyone else on this thread said?

OP posts:
SatsukiKusakabe · 18/11/2016 11:01

I think it came across in the op that your dh had said it won't hurt for her to go in on a Friday as she has the whole weekend to recover, but You meant that it wouldn't hurt her to have the day off.

SatsukiKusakabe · 18/11/2016 11:02

I get what you're saying about having a general upset stomach, but as your dd had vomitted as well it's unlikely to have been a disagreement with food.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/11/2016 11:06

The issue here, Floof, is that neither you nor your dd are medically qualified to differentiate between diarrhoea caused by an infection, and diarrhoea caused by 'something she ate' - and if you don't keep her off school when she has some nasty stomach bug, you risk spreading it around the whole school.

You make a parallel with your gluten allergy - which you don't have the evidence to make. Obviously, if your dd had a diagnosed allergy to gluten, that caused diarrhoea, and she'd eaten gluten and had some hours of diarrhoea afterwards, I would understand your feeling that it was safe for her to go to school.

But, unless you have forgotten something pretty big from your OP, she doesn't have a diagnosed gluten allergy - nor have you said that she gets some hours of diarrhoea every time she eats gluten (or any other food or food group), so there is no evidence to suggest this was an allergy.

Also, in your OP, you say that there is a nasty bug going around the school at the moment - that, plus no diagnosed allergy would make me more likely to think infection than bad reaction to a particular food group, in this instance.

It might have been 'something she ate' in that GI bugs usually enter via the digestive system - she could have eaten something that was contaminated, or could have picked the bug up from a poorly cleaned surface (maybe at school, where some other parent had sent their child in too soon after diarrhoea caused by a GI bug) and unwittingly transferred it into her mouth via food she was eating or by chewing her finger nails etc.

Given that you say the 48 hour rule doesn't exist in secondary schools, my advice would be to keep her off for 48 hours after her poo goes back to something more normal - to minimise the risk of her spreading infection round the school.

Floofborksnootandboop · 18/11/2016 11:07

I think it came across in the op that your dh had said it won't hurt for her to go in on a Friday as she has the whole weekend to recover, but You meant that it wouldn't hurt her to have the day off.

Probably bad wording then, I meant he thinks having one day off won't hurt.

OP posts:
BatBoobs · 18/11/2016 11:28

My son has been off from primary school after a night vomiting. When I rang in, their policy was only 24 hours.

WeAreUglyButWeHaveTheMusic · 18/11/2016 11:38

Bat that's unusual and will probably have more to do with their attendance data than infection control.

Schools are under conflicting pressures to both reduce the risk of spreading contagious diseases, whilst improving attendance. It's an impossible line to walk!

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 18/11/2016 11:40

Our schools policy is 24 hrs too but I did 48hrs too

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