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To keep her home from school for this?

66 replies

Floofborksnootandboop · 17/11/2016 22:52

Sorry for TMI

DD14 has had the most awful diorreha today, she describes it as weeing from her bum and has been sick once. She says other than that and a slight tummy ache she feels fine.

There is a nasty bug going around and the school sent out an email a week or so back saying to keep anyone with sickness or diorreha off school for the suggested 48hours after.

DD says she is absolutely fine to go to school and I wouldn't usually keep her off but I'm just not sure. DH says it's Friday so If she is poorly one day won't hurt then the whole weekend to rest and recover.

Wwyd?

TIA

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Tomorrowillbeachicken · 17/11/2016 23:32

I would. My son threw up tuesday and was off for 48 hrs and has now threw up tonight and will now be off tomorrow. It sucks but there are some nasty virus' going around and don't want to pass them on.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 17/11/2016 23:34

Also some schools are closed atm due to the norivirus. Our school has had loads of cases.

Eliza22 · 17/11/2016 23:34

Stay home. Needs to be "well" for 48 hrs before returning.

Ditsy4 · 17/11/2016 23:34

For goodness sake keep her home. This is why I have been off work three times this term and other staff have too.I have a medical condition and so it is much worse for me. I have had to have antibiotics before because parents sent their up -chucking children to school!

Deux · 17/11/2016 23:36

You really don't need to ask. Of course she should stay at home. It sounds like she's got a bug. Ask her how she'd feel if her bum starts leaking at school tomorrow. Mortifying.

Just because she wants to go doesn't mean she should.

TheTroutofNoCraic · 17/11/2016 23:43

Teacher here: Keep her home...kids are terrific at passing this sort of thing on and the general rule of thumb in any school I've ever taught in is 48hrs clear of last episode of D and/or V.

ohtheholidays · 17/11/2016 23:45

Please keep her at home,we have 5DC and 2 of our DC are disabled but they attend mainstream school,I'm seriouslly ill now and have a comprimised immune system if a child was sent to school with D&V at one of our DC's schools all 3 of us could end up in hospital which would be the last thing we'd need!

I wouldn't send one of my DC in to school if they'd been bad,your DD may feel okay right now but imagine if you let her go into school and then she's really bad at school and can't manage to get to the toilet in time.That would be bad enough at any age but at 14 I would imagine it would take her along time to get over the embarrasment bless her.

Finola1step · 17/11/2016 23:49

I had Norovirus just last week. The vomiting was done with within 6 hours but the tummy cramps were dreadful. Took me 5 days to eat something half decent. I probably picked it up from someone who didn't observe the 48 rule.

Please don't send her in. There may well be pregnant members of staff, children and staff with compromised immune systems etc. Never mind those she will come into contact with on the journey to and from.

One day. Keep her home.

jayisforjessica · 17/11/2016 23:51

Keep her home.

When it comes to D&V bugs, it's so incredibly irresponsible to let kids go in and spread them around. Just because your DD feels fine doesn't mean she isn't passing it around to goodness knows whom. Also echo what PP said about what if she's not entirely over it and has an accident?

This sounds like an opportunity for a lovely couch day to me.

Casmama · 17/11/2016 23:53

What a stupid fucking question!
Honestly, she has vomited and has diarrhoea - exactly the symptoms that rule is for. Keep her at home for Gods sake.

Meadows76 · 18/11/2016 00:00

Who the hell even questions that? Your kid is sick, keep them off Shock

WeAreUglyButWeHaveTheMusic · 18/11/2016 00:07

It's not even a decision, is it? It's obvious. Why are you even asking here?

Alonglongway · 18/11/2016 00:30

I had it last night - awful. Feel fine now but taking the 48 hrs from work

IneedAdinosaurNickname · 18/11/2016 00:46

Keep her home poor kid.

Ds2 had vomiting and diarrhoea at the weekend. His poo was 'normal' again today (so he tells me) but he's hardly eaten all week and hasn't been to school. He's staying home tomorrow just to make sure.

And at our school 48 hours clear is a rule even after year 7.

EveOnline2016 · 18/11/2016 00:56

Unless you know 100% what the cause is, keep her home.

MrsMcMoo · 18/11/2016 01:06

It's one thing I would definitely keep them off for (and I'm not very indulgent about sickies and have had one in the last 6 years myself). What if she couldn't make it to the loo in time? Secondary school teachers don't always let them leave the classroom whenever they want. It could be a completely devastating experience. I would not risk it. Not to mention the contagion risk.

Bogeyface · 18/11/2016 01:10

48 hours is to stop her passing it on, its nothing to do with her feeling ok!

Bogeyface · 18/11/2016 01:11

And the reason she got it could well be because of some fuckwit parent who decided that their job was more important than their (and other) childrens health so sent their child back while still contagious.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 18/11/2016 03:54

Keep her at home, definitely.
I must say this though. I hope you realise how fortunate you are having a teenager who wants to go to school. My dd used to try every trick in the book to get a day off. She's at college now mind and has never looked back.

HeyOverHere · 18/11/2016 04:46

Let her stay at home. The bug is probably still in her, and you don't want to pass it on--nor does she want to pick up another one!

HurricaneSwallows · 18/11/2016 05:56

It depends on how she is through the night in. the morning. If you suspect a bug don't put her in. It's children in need day tomorromost kids would go in regardless of their bugs for the fun aspect.

If she is unwell this morning keep her off and offer some alternative when she feels betterFlowers

amammabear · 18/11/2016 07:31

I don't get why it's a question, they've already told you, 48 hours and it hasn't even been 24.

I have children with gastroparesis and one who has migraines however and we have an agreement with the school that if it is obvious that they are the cause and no other symptoms of a bug, then they are allowed in school. For instance my daughter had a migraine this Tuesday, but it was definitely a migraine, her symptoms were clear and text book, so she was back in on Wednesday, school happy. But before we had this agreement, at her last school she had patches where she was missing 2/3 days of school every single week or fortnight.

Heirhelp · 18/11/2016 07:39

Secondary teacher here, 48 hours does not normally apply in secondary school. Yes I would follow school rules but I would also be keeping her off for herself as it may return when she starts eating and her body has to deal with food again.

SquirrelPaws · 18/11/2016 08:03

At 14 if she's sensible I'd think she could keep it to herself by washing her hands properly and not being in other kids' faces. If she felt properly well I'd let her go in. She's still got tummy ache though, so she should stay home.

As an aside, I find the 48-hour rule to be a peculiarly Mumsnet thing. Other than nurseries/primary schools I never hear of it in real life, and can only imagine the reaction anyone I know would get for wanting an extra two days off work after the symptoms have stopped.

GeorgeTheThird · 18/11/2016 08:04

Why in earth do you even need to ask? She needs to stay at home and your husband is an idiot.