to say no to this 13th birthday party invitation?

[LilaTheLion]

I've been handed a 13th birthday invitation by 12 year old DD, lovely.

Only its a 10pm finish, next Thursday. Which is a school night.

She'll hate me if I say no... But my gut is saying "WTAF, IT'S A SCHOOL NIGHT?!"

In the interests of never drip feeding, I am taking her to a concert on Sunday that wont finish til 10 with a 2 hour drive home. Which invalidates my position somewhat...

And they are out of the house at 7.15 for school, no problem

You know your child

It's not unusually late for cadets, scouts type of thing.

My DS2 is 13 and has activities that keep him out till 8/8.30/9.30 four nights a week.

On other nights he rarely goes to bed before 10pm tbh. I am always surprised at early bedtimes of teens posted on MN but assume they don't do Guides/Scouts/footy training/cricket matches etc as IME these often finish later than the suggested bedtime.

Is it an inset day?

x-post chippy - once the kids get to 10/11yo their activities get later cos the early slots are taken by the 8yos (eg Scouts starts at 7.30pm after Beavers finishes; footy is 8pm-9pm as other times are younger teams etc).

Mine seem to get by on 8 hours sleep a night, with the occasional weekend lie-in.

My 12 & 15 year old are both in bed by 9.30pm apart from show weeks (dd dances & DS does musical theatre)

The latest any regular activity ends is 8.45pm (singing group). Hockey training is Saturdsy mornings. Matches are Saturday's/Sunday's. Drama finishes at 7pm.

Yabu
It's one night

Chelazla - young teens still need about 10 hours of sleep a night or at least 9. My dd is still only 10 but she needs at least 10 hours of sleep or she is completely shattered. Sometimes she gets less but then she needs to catch up.

Well the INSET day revelation has totally pissed on my "AIBU?", "YABU" chips

Is it an inset day?

Mmhmm. Oops. IWDBU.

Lila love your honesty!

So all's well that ends well 😉

There's nothing to see here, move on everyone. Lila's just overtired.

LMFAO. At least you admitted it OP. Cheers.

Thank goodness you asked a bunch of internet randomers rather than turning down the invite

IMAGINE IF I'D SENT THE SLIGHTLY STROPPY TEXT I WAS PLANNING TO THE MOTHER?

But this is our secret. And newspapers are thread lifting wankers.

Sorry but at least now it's only vicarious shame rather than actual real shame!!

Hilarious op that would be me getting it mixed up too

It's all fine. No one needs to know. I'll breezily say "yes of COURSE you can go darling" to DD in the morning. BREEZY.

Love you to bits Lila

My 12 year old DD does Scouts every Mon, and gets in at 10. So it seemsx quite normal to me.

I didn't even have the sense to post in Chat where I usually do for disappearing purposes so I'll forever be That Unreasonable Woman Who Doesn't Know When the Inset Days Are.

Forever.