to think dd should distance herself from this 'friend'?

[marvelousdcomics]

DD has had this friend (who is a boy, just to clarify) since they were 11. Now both 15. In the last 6 months this friend has been having mood swings and dd seems to be on the receiving end of anything he does. She says she both does and doesn't want to be his friend, but feels bad if she leaves him - 1) he is basically her only friend and 2) she is basically his only friend.

He has a crush on her. DD politely reiterated that she is gay, although she would love to stay friends. Friend now keeps telling her he loves her, kisses her, hugs her, always touches her, holds her hands, follows her most places - all without her permission. She says 'its creepy' and he just doesn't stop, bo matter what she says to him.

On the other hand, he frequently tells her to piss off, shut up etc. Today he said 'being gay is a genetic defect' He spreads rumours about her, and roots through her bag all the time (which has personal items etc), and never apologises.

He even follows her to the toilets, which freaks dd out. In classwork, if she wants to work with anyone else, he tells everyone else to 'fuck off' before making dd work with him.

He has spent £30 on her for Xmas (she hasn't bought him anything yet - no money), and has said he loves her and keeps asking her out etc. She wants to break up the friendship but would feel bad about it.

Also, this boy mocked her eating disorders and told the whole year group that she is a 'mental self harmer'. She is really distressed in this situation but doesn't know what to do.

I think she should end the friendship. WWYD? TIA.

[Unescorted]

DD says : "honestly i think instead of removing your DD from the school you should speak to the school and try to get him removed instead because I personally have had issues similar to this (obviously not on the same scale as this case) I have been followed home by this person and followed around school - i told people about it, he came up and yelled at me saying i was a lying whore and i should drink bleach. but i just told peopple about it again. he kept sending me messages saying i would regret telling people and he would hurt me (which i still do believe) but because i told people he is staying away from me for now because it turned on him a bit. i know this may not be the easiest thing to do in your situation but even by telling you mum or whoever else you are allready helping yourself in the long run. Sounds cringey ik but it helped alot and if he keeps harassing you, you need to tell the police or your pastoral manager (but depends if they are any good) . If none of this helps id ask to move schools. but from personal experience teachers dont do shit they just say " lets all just be friends" or words to that effect and i understand the 'dead embarrassing' bit because peeps start being nosy and ask whats happening. you should definitly look into getting him out of the school though because NoBody should be spoken to/ treated like that. But try to keep the higher ground and dont whatever you do sink to his level.

hope it all gets better for you x x x

PS sorry that was really long

[Mindfields]

This is like all MN threads rolled into one to be honest.

Transgender, lesbian, bullying, homophobia, eating disorders, self harm, stalking, sexual assault, harassment, home schooling, special needs (have I missed any?).

[marvelousdcomics]

Thank you to unescorted's dd

Mindfields, yes there are 5 female - to - male students. It is a big school. There are 2 in year 11, 2 in year 10 and 1 in year 8. I mentioned this on my other thread about dd's bullying.

Thank you everyone for all replies.