In conversation with a friend yesterday I said that MY life would be easier and far less complicated if I were a single parent rather than a married one. I said that because at the minute that's how I feel. Life is pretty shit I'll be honest with you. Me and my dh are in a rut and I can't see a way out. Our youngest Dc is on the autism spectrum and whilst we would never ever change him we aren't coping. I explained in detail to my friend how I felt and the single parent comment was more an off the cuff remark which to be honest she knows me so should have known this. Instead she got in a big huff saying I've no idea how hard single parents have it and I'd never cope on my own. But in all fairness she doesn't know just how hard me and my dh have had these last few years. Well she does know but usually I'm not one to moan on about how hard things are but yesterday I needed an a shoulder to cry on.
My friend is a single parent but she's not a single parent in the sense that she does it all on her own with no help ie financial, practical from the father. Her ex is still very much involved in her kids lives and has them half the time. She gets financial emotional and practical support off her ex and her family. If she was genuinely struggling then maybe I could understand why she got so narky but imo she was well over the top. I may be being unreasonable but I was merely saying how my life would be if I were a single parent not how anyone else's life is.