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To think the woman who thinks Tesco 'shamed' and 'guilt-tripped' her for buying formula

124 replies

Manumission · 12/11/2016 13:55

is being a little bit dim?

You might not like the policy, but it's not difficult to understand that it is imposed on the retailers from above, is it?

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Manumission · 12/11/2016 14:49

Pure Grin

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thisisafakename · 12/11/2016 14:51

I don't think there are any supermarkets near me that check up on what you have bought. You just park, shop and drive off. Including at Tesco.

But as others have said, I cannot on any level see how this can be justified when people can buy alcohol, cigarettes, sugary or fatty food and any amount of junk and get free parking. I also can't really understand how this is due to EU law (bet the DM LOVED the anti-EU angle). Tesco can choose precisely whom they offer free parking to. They could offer free parking without a minimum spend- they are free to set their own rules about their own car park. They have specifically chosen to impose specific parking rules linked to promotions. I don't think the woman is dim- I think it's an outrage that she has been denied the right to park when she spends money in that bloody stupid overpriced shop.

Matchingbluesocks · 12/11/2016 14:53

People can't bug cigarettes can they? It says so in the article

OurBlanche · 12/11/2016 14:53

Fallen it is a UN / WHO Code of Practice.

The UK has partially adopted its recommendations into law.

It is not an EU policy.

The wiki thing is the least impenetrable source of info - ish!
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Code_of_Marketing_of_Breast-milk_Substitutes

Jengnr · 12/11/2016 14:54

No nick you can't argue that because you don't buy your breast milk in Tesco

Matchingbluesocks · 12/11/2016 14:55

Exactly. A breastfeeding mother buying fags wouldn't be able to get her parking validated either. It's not formula vs breast

OurBlanche · 12/11/2016 14:56

Bug cigarettes?

Modern technology is great Smile

Sorry Matching but the mental image that conjured reminded me of thefake snow things we used to stick in the end of DFs fags Smile

KathArtic · 12/11/2016 14:57

If she HAS to use formula for a medical condition she should seeking it on prescription.

I assume it was all automated at the till anyway, so the staff wouldn't have been able to manually over ride the system.

Anyway, as was said upthread, she could have bought a multitude of other things: nappies, chocolate, bread.

KnitsBakesAndReads · 12/11/2016 14:58

Loads of products don't count towards minimum spend requirements. Would she feel she'd been "shamed" if she'd purchased a mobile top up voucher, gift card or lottery ticket and been told they don't count as part of the required minimum spend?

Doobigetta · 12/11/2016 14:59

The government are blaming the evil EU and trumpeting about how this will all disappear when we TAKE BACK CONTROL.

WhisperingLoudly · 12/11/2016 15:00

She must understand that if she wants a free for all on advertising then future tubs of formula are going to cost her a lot more than an additional £4

OurBlanche · 12/11/2016 15:00

Yes! That 'government source' is misinformed on this one.

I hope they get identified, so we can laugh at them!

Matchingbluesocks · 12/11/2016 15:00

Yeah good point Kath. I don't believe she has to use formula for medical reasons and think she only said that to shut down any breast is best argument

Bubbinsmakesthree · 12/11/2016 15:03

I don't think there are any supermarkets near me that check up on what you have bought. You just park, shop and drive off. Including at Tesco

It happens in some places where the supermarket is in a popular location (e.g. close to a town centre) and if they didn't restrict parking the car park would get filled with other shoppers who weren't using the supermarket. If they didn't have a minimum spend people would be coming in and buying a Mars Bar.

So it's not a crazy policy to have a minimum spend, and generally speaking people would be buying things other than infant formula in their shop.

thisisafakename · 12/11/2016 15:03

Oh yeah, sorry, it does say that fags are excluded. However, she could buy a multi-pack of sweets and three giant bottles of fizzy drink and that would be fine.

Anyhoo, this is NOT the fault of the EU and not something that Brexit will magically solve (as the stupid Tesco spokesperson says in the article). This is Tesco being twats and trying to find an excuse for their stupid rules. My local sainsburys offers free parking for 2 hours and you don't even need to show a receipt. My local Tesco does the same in fact. This store are the ones who have chosen to link their parking with promotions. But of course all the Brexiters are lapping this up and saying how great it will be when we leave etc.

FallenSky · 12/11/2016 15:04

Thanks for the link OurBlanche Shall have a little read later.

YuckYuckEwwww · 12/11/2016 15:05

This is not discriminating against non BFers because breast feeders don't get free parking either without a min spend on eligible products.. so it is a dim interpretation and a leap!

thisisafakename · 12/11/2016 15:06

It happens in some places where the supermarket is in a popular location (e.g. close to a town centre)

True, I do live in a very unpopular area....

Matchingbluesocks · 12/11/2016 15:09

But it's not about whether she buys Haribo and wine- it's not a moral judgement on her purchases it's about whether she can get her parking validated

Namechanger10100 · 12/11/2016 15:14

thisiscadakename

You're right it's not the EU, but it's also not Tesco. It's international law negotiated and overseen by WHO.

gluteustothemaximus · 12/11/2016 15:15

Think this has been blown out of proportion. Rules is rules.

Some supermarkets give free parking if you spend over £20 (as an example) - if you spent £19 and then complained about it, you'd be in the wrong.

It was clear that just buying formula wouldn't validate your parking, so I would have bought a small extra something. Job Done.

"HOW DARE THEY TELL ME FORMULA MILK IS AS BAD AS SMOKING"

I really don't think this is what they said.

Probably another DM attempt to make the EU look evil.

OurBlanche · 12/11/2016 15:15

And Tesco will now have to clarify its policy.

Do they give free parking for formula only shopping or do they consider it to be included in the law regarding formula and incentives.

All else is opinion!

MrsHathaway · 12/11/2016 15:16

The full story is that the baby had to have fat-free milk - I noticed because this happened to a friend of ours whose baby had a dangerous heart condition. That ff was on prescription.

You can't make fat-free breast milk. But by the time she could tolerate fat, mother was well beyond re lactation.

But in the case highlighted by the OP, by pulling the "mine is for medical reasons" the mother is actually adding to the attitudes she's complaining about: ff is ok iff it's for medical reasons.

Fuck that: it's fucking fabulous.

weavingawickerbasket · 12/11/2016 15:17

" I thought we lived in a free society, so you have the choice to formula feed or breast feed."
Actually we live in a capitalist society and the reason why some customers get a discount is purely for capitalist reason i.e. to generate revenue for shareholders, not to act as samaritans to provided discounted food to women who have babies. It would be nice if we did live in a society where everyones needs were met through some sort of benefactor but we don't. In the end fi you can't afford formula for your child it's probably best to either bf or maybe postpone having children until you economic situation is more stable.

Manumission · 12/11/2016 15:20

But in the case highlighted by the OP, by pulling the "mine is for medical reasons" the mother is actually adding to the attitudes she's complaining about: ff is ok iff it's for medical reasons.

She obviously has her own (needless) guilt about FFing and is projecting wildly. Hence ignoring the facts to have a go at Tesco, who just happened to be the easiest people to have a pop at.

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