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AIBU to hate my neighbours kids?

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Gracey1231 · 10/11/2016 01:35

My next door neighbours children aged about 8 and 11 have literally no respect for my property. I'm not a neighbour from hell who kicks off at them for nothing either I never shout at them.

Okay so our driveway and there's is connected even though our houses aren't and they are constantly littering our front garden with, quite frankly, shit, toffee wrappers and bottles which I am sick of saying "guys really sorry but can you pick up after yourself" they use our driveway as a play area which I'm not happy about but don't want to be nasty because theirs have a car on it and mine doesn't, despite them having a full road to play in, the ball goes over my garden constantly which I honestly dont mind, but they're forever at the door knocking, and if I say I'm busy they bang on my door until I get it.

A few weeks ago they were playing football and the ball hit my window, I went out and reasonably said to them look if it breaks I'll have to pay for a new one and it's very expensive, the 11 year old laughed in my face. I never said a word.

They constantly come right up to my window and look inside and their parents never check on them despite one having learning difficulties.

After that occasion they kicked it into my garden and didn't even knock to get it just attempted to climb over my side gate into the garden, which I caught them and politely informed them that this is trespassing and I haven't ever have them permission to go into my garden.
Today I got home and my back gate was completely unlocked, no one in the house had done it and there was a ball on my shed which wasn't there before. Turns out they'd unlocked the gate tried to get the ball and couldn't reach and just left it open.

AIBU to literally be fed up of these kids? Tried to be reasonable with them but it's becoming irritable by the day especially when I have a lot going on at the moment. I want to speak to their parents but I don't want to seem patronising as I don't have kids of my own.

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User1234567891011 · 11/11/2016 19:03

SpaceDinosaur is an evil genius. Do that.

SpaceDinosaur · 12/11/2016 09:22

Used to teach. Not my first rodeo! Wink

Farmmummy · 12/11/2016 10:32

We have a friend this happened to and she set up a camera (actually was one of those dummy ones) and made it clear that all incidents were being logged (actually she was just writing down the times and dates but the family didn't know that) then took it to the landlord and they were moved

ThatStewie · 12/11/2016 10:56

Can you put a large planter in front of your window so they can't get close enough to look in? You can get them really cheaply at poundstretchers. Randomly placing them on your driveway means they can't use it as a playground.

It is worth having a quick chat with your community police/ anti-social behaviour officer. They don't need to take anything forward. Just logging the incidents can be helpful. It may be that the kids are already known and this can be logged as a pattern of behaviour.

Cherrysoup · 12/11/2016 11:05

Lock on gate, obviously or bolt unreachable from outside if you don't go in that way yourself. Barbed wire wrapped round top, don't care if it's illegal, tough. Dummy or real camera. As long as it's only pointing on your entrance, it's legal.

Trespassing is a civil offence, harassment can be prosecuted. Report to local community officer. Go out and kick off big time every time they peer in your window. Report to SS re concern for welfare for child with SEND.

NewIdeasToday · 12/11/2016 11:13

I think you're making this more complicated than it needs to be by mentioning robbers etc. Presumably if kids can open your garden gate then robbers could do the same anyway.

So as others have said just stick to the facts. I don't want your kids toys on my driveway. I don't want them looking in my window etc. Much harder for facts like that to turn into a slanging match.

Katy07 · 12/11/2016 13:55

Padlock on the gate. Give them their ball back punctured.

SpaceDinosaur · 14/11/2016 14:03

How goes operation "get the fuck off my property" OP?

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