To mention the constant wrong spelling of my teen Dds name or am I just being petty?

[TooPetty]

My dd is a teen at secondary school. A few weeks ago one of her classes put on a show and it was to encourage the pupils to be as professional as possible, everything was to be perfect etc. On the programme dd's name was spelled incorrectly. Her name has 3 letters and is a standard spelling.

Parents were given feedback forms. I gave really good positive feedback but did mention that dd's name was wrong in the programme.

Next day in class the teacher said to all the pupils that it was nice that everyone's parents gave positive feedback except dd's.

3 times since this the teacher has spelled Dd's name wrong and when dd has mentioned it the teacher has said "oh I wouldn't want your mum to pull me up again"

Teacher seems to be obviously displeased with my feedback. Dd has said it's getting really annoying and she feels it's being done on purpose now.

So parent's night this week, would it be petty to mention it again or let it go and just let dd constantly correct her and get snide comments?

PS Totally agree with AmeliaJack; your feedback, she should have called you for a chat if she had anything to say!

Hazarding a guess OP, the repeated misspellings on things to do with the performance if they are printed not written will be doen to it being saved that way in a doc file or mail merge type thing.

So if theres been standard letters with personalised names, DD 's misspelled name is what it is on the computer and she hasn't changed it, possibly to make a point.

I wouldn't have bothered pointing it out. A typo is a typo, and she was probably typing it at about midnight trying to get it finished. Parents who whinge about insignificant shit is why teachers stop bothering to run extra activities.

But she's being unprofessional now.

I agree with Italian

I don't think the spelling of one's own name is insignificant. My dd's name was spelled wrongly on her books and it was very annoying, I didn't 'whinge' and it just got left.

I think it needs pointing out. I had similar. My two dds attend the sane school and they frequently get their surname spelt wrong on certificates, newsletters and programs. After the last incident where it appeared wrong 4 out of 5 times I posted on here. A school secretary a teacher gave me quite a hard time but I still mentioned it gently. The school secretary was really defensive saying well I spelt it right.
I hope you are taken more seriously op because the teacher in your case really compounded the error.

O and I didn't ask for corrections and neither were they offered.

i think just a very calm, very quiet
'if you have issue with any feedback i have provided, take it up with me, not my daughter in future. we both know you are perfectly capable of spelling amy correctly so let's draw a line under this now shall we'
right at the end, then get up and leave before she tries to drag you into anything about it.

Look we have 4 different spellings of Chardonnay in 1 year group - it isn't easy!

As if 4 different sets of parents decided that Chardonnay was a good idea as a name

Op- when someone is doing a project on professionalism and spells someone's name incorrect that takes the piss somewhat. To then make snide comments I'm assuming in front of the class is another issue entirely. I would definitely speak to the teacher and say her comments are completely unnecessary and unprofessional. It's not fair on your daughter. Maybe give her a large name badge to wear for this one teacher.

The teacher sounds like a bully, id make an appointment to tackle this outside of parents evening. That should be about your daughters progress, not her teachers snide, passive aggressive crap comments.

I teach in a school in London 86% of our children are from non English backgrounds.

I genuinely have years where I have had three types of Muhammed spelling in one class but I always try to get a child's name right.

If I didn't I would be mortified and my head would rightly make me reissue anything with the spelling mistake on it!

My name is hard to spell so maybe that's why I try hard but it is sad that other teachers are so lazy or inaccurate.

If I were you I'd go to the P/T meeting, see if she says anything THEN go to the Head. She's being a bitch, don't let her get away with it.

My dd has a Gaelic name and there can be some people who spell it wrong!

But my friend's daughter had everything wrong at school regarding her name. It was correct on the register but teachers thought it had an E instead of an A in it.

My son has a name where there are a few spellings.He even has another boy in his class wit the same name,spelled differently.The teacher spelled his name "wrong" i went in.She spells it right now.Even went as far as changing the spelling on his drawings.

So thats the correct way to do it.

I'd be mightily pissed off at this. Your poor DD.

DS1 has a common Scottish name with an unusual spelling, he's never experienced such an attitude.

This is awful!! I have a name that can be spelt 2 slightly different ways and it drives me absolutely mad when people spell it the other way as it's NOT MY NAME. People have actually told me it doesn't matter, but it matters to me!
I think this teacher is being hugely unprofessional and you need to pull her up on it.

I can't get my head around her thinking the default spelling is Ami.

Unless she has a DD spelt that way (or relative etc) or there are loads of Amy's with all different spellings in her class - in that case it is slightly more understandable.

But bringing it up like that with your DD isn't on, so YANBU

When I say understandable, I mean why she would spell it wrong in error, not that it's okay!

The teacher is extremely unprofessional and petty.

Many years ago when DS was in Infants his teacher spelt his name wrong on the school report. Spelt correctly the whole way through expect in the sentence "X needs to concentrate more to get his spellings correct in written work" with X spelt wrong!
I politely mentioned it to teacher and just asked if she could reprint that page with correct spelling when she got a chance.
She laughed at the irony of it and we both had a good giggle.

Now DS name isn't spelt the typical English was. Think usually Matthew and he's Mathew. I don't mind mistakes but I do mind attitude if I ask for it to be corrected. It's important names are correct on public documents and reports IMO.

I'd bring it up and say something like - I understand spelling is takes happen but the appropriate thing to do is to correct it or make a simple apology - model the appropriate response to the pupils. And then I'd ask what the sanction would be if a pupil treated a teacher the way the teacher is treating DD. That usually gets people to sit up and realise their actions.

As if 4 different sets of parents decided that Chardonnay was a good idea as a name hmm

We probably have about 15 in the school including the double barrelled such as chardonnay-rainbow (not a real one but don't want to be outed) sorry probably more likely chardonnai- rainbow

My name is most frequently spelled in two slightly different ways, and my parents chose the less usual of the two, so I am no stranger to having my name misspelled. Mistakes do happen, and someone can get a complete blind spot about something, and make the same mistake over and over, even when it has been pointed out.

But what matters is what happens when it is pointed out. The person should apologise and do their best not to repeat the mistake.

What they definitely should not do is make snide comments - especially as a teacher, to a child!

^^This
Perdita it doesn't matter how many ways your have to remember to spell how many names - mistakes are human, but politely apologising is the way to go. Taking out your annoyance on the child for the parent's comment is out of line.

I think you were perfectly fine to on a feedback form give feedback to say your daughter's name was spelt incorrectly, especially as they're trying to stress how things should be done correctly... lead by example and all that.

Given the teacher could spell your daughter's name correctly prior to this, has clearly taken offence to being told about the spelling mistake & has now taken it upon herself to make snidey comments I think you should raise it when you have the opportunity. The teacher isn't acting professionally at all and is setting a bad example.

Former teacher here.

The original misspelling is unfortunate - mistakes happen, but totally appropriate to mention on a feedback form.

The teacher is being unprofessional and unfair in taking it out on Amy. I think it's important that you raise it at P evening so that it doesn't continue, but maybe give the teacher the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's trying to treat it as an ongoing joke, just one that is making Amy uncomfortable.

If the singling out about the spelling happens even once after that, I'd go straight to the head of year or equivalent.

I'd write a little note asking for a five minutes meeting. The request in writing would make it 'official'. During the brief meeting I would bring up the remarks. The spelling itself wouldn't be my main issue (until now as it is being spelled incorrectly deliberately at this stage) but the teacher's point scoring is unprofessional, inappropriate and making your DD uncomfortable.I would have a big issue with that!