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Original poster

To mention the constant wrong spelling of my teen Dds name or am I just being petty?

88 replies

TooPetty · 08/11/2016 21:31

My dd is a teen at secondary school. A few weeks ago one of her classes put on a show and it was to encourage the pupils to be as professional as possible, everything was to be perfect etc. On the programme dd's name was spelled incorrectly. Her name has 3 letters and is a standard spelling.

Parents were given feedback forms. I gave really good positive feedback but did mention that dd's name was wrong in the programme.

Next day in class the teacher said to all the pupils that it was nice that everyone's parents gave positive feedback except dd's.

3 times since this the teacher has spelled Dd's name wrong and when dd has mentioned it the teacher has said "oh I wouldn't want your mum to pull me up again" Hmm

Teacher seems to be obviously displeased with my feedback. Dd has said it's getting really annoying and she feels it's being done on purpose now.

So parent's night this week, would it be petty to mention it again or let it go and just let dd constantly correct her and get snide comments?

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User1234567891011 · 08/11/2016 22:07

The teacher is being an arsehole, he shouldn't be saying things like that infront of your DD, nevermind the whole class!

How hard is it to know how to spell a name? I'd go to the head of that teacher's department or the head teacher due to the snide remarks.

RandomDent · 08/11/2016 22:10

Oh please reveal the other 3 ways to spell Chardonnay. :)

abbsismyhero · 08/11/2016 22:11

Its three letters how hard could it be

I agree the teachers sarcasm needs to be checked she is a child ffs get a grip

EweAreHere · 08/11/2016 22:11

The teacher is being very unprofessional and retaliating against a child.

I'd go to the head of the department as well.

AmeliaJack · 08/11/2016 22:12

My issue would be with the teacher embarrassing your DD in front of her peers regarding feedback that you gave. Your DD isn't responsible for your views.

I'd ask her why she did that and then sit back and wait for the answer.

llangennith · 08/11/2016 22:12

I'd certainly bring it up and ask politely why the teacher made her snide remark. Very unprofessional.

Confutatis · 08/11/2016 22:15

You could try mispronouncing said teacher's name at the parents' evening. After a few failed corrections of your pronunciation they might get the message Grin

Stopyourhavering · 08/11/2016 22:18

Yanbu, I hate getting my name spelt incorrectly especially when it's clear to see in my e mail signature

MistresssIggi · 08/11/2016 22:19

What is the teacher doing that she needs to repeatedly write your daughter's name? I can't think of any times I write a student's name other than reports and a trembly seating plan. It does seem odd this has all happened over three weeks too, what has changed?

MistresssIggi · 08/11/2016 22:19

That would be a termly plan, though a trembly one would be good too.

RockinHippy · 08/11/2016 22:20

Wow, YADNBU!!Shock

The very unprofessional PA response in front of a class of teens would have me spitting feathers! This sort of thing needs nipping in the bud, pdq. Bullying is rife at this age & teens have a hard enough time fitting in with their peers & finding their feet, such a nasty unprofessional thing for a teacher to do on the back of you pointing out THEIR ongoing mistake & the way it was done tooAngry

Go above her head, speak to the head of year!

KnittingPearl · 08/11/2016 22:23

Raise it - my name was semi frequently misspelt at school, so it is mildly irritating. However, getting at your daughter like that is really not on. My worry is if you raise it, the teacher's behaviour will get worse. If need be, go over the teacher's head - they are being massively unprofessional.

LittleCandle · 08/11/2016 22:25

Another saying go above the teacher's head. That is dreadful behaviour and totally unprofessional. I have an unusual spelling of my name and did the same to DD2. I have had a teacher tell me that I have mis-spelled her name on more than one occasion, but usually telling them once is enough to get the problem sorted. The passive aggressive comments are simply not on. I would have a word with her, too, and make sure that your comments to head of year or head teacher are written down. If there is further trouble, keep escalating. I ended up at the education authorities once because of a teacher's attitude towards DD2 and it turned out I was not the only person with concerns. Don't just let this lie.

Original poster
TooPetty · 08/11/2016 22:26

Thanks everyone I will definitely mention it then and I will report back.

I'm not 100% sure on why her name it being written so often from what I can gather it's performance schedules and that kind of thing. I'll find out for sure before bringing it up.

If it wasn't parents night I would probably let it go, as surely the teacher has to stop at some point. I wouldn't make an appointment or anything to discuss it but since I will be seeing her anyway seems like an ideal opportunity!

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CotswoldStrife · 08/11/2016 22:26

I would also be asking the teacher about raising the feedback in front of the class - very unprofessional.

Ohyesiam · 08/11/2016 22:26

And you can tell her that she should give out praise forms, not feedback forms.

savedbythebell · 08/11/2016 22:35

I'd wait for an opportunity to be able to write something to the teacher and spell HER name wrong.

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 08/11/2016 22:40

I have never heard of Amy being spelled Ami! I thought you were going to say Amy spelt Aimie or something. YANBU, the teacher is being rude and weird.

sonlypuppyfat · 08/11/2016 22:41

I had this my teacher insisted on calling me by my full names nickname, my name shortened then an ie added. I told her I preferred my full name. Bloody nasty cow wouldn't have it and insisted on trying to humiliate me about it every day. I was the most shy of children and she made me cry every day

Alorsmum · 08/11/2016 22:44

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Bertucci · 08/11/2016 22:57

Ami? Who spells it like that? Teacher is being a twat.

Dixiechickonhols · 08/11/2016 23:01

I don't think you were petty to point it out. People keep programs as souvenirs, show grandparents etc and the error will be repeated if you don't let them know. The op didn't demand a meeting/kick up a fuss on the night. I assume she wrote something like fantastic show, great choreography you have all worked so hard. Could you just note DD is Amy not Ami.

CaptainCabinets · 09/11/2016 01:11

I'm an Amy. I've had Aimee, Ami, Amie and all kinds of weird and wonderful spellings.

I don't see what is so difficult about the most common spelling of a THREE LETTER name. Angry

iminshock · 09/11/2016 01:31

My son's name is often spelled wrong with school stuff.

Doesn't bother me.

Italiangreyhound · 09/11/2016 01:50

Tell her to spell your dd's name right, quit trying to embarrass your dd in class and remind her your feedback was positive, she positively did spell the name wrong! Grin

Actually I would just say, there seems to be a problem, outline the problem, ask her if she can see an end to this or do you need to speak to her superior about it.