To think MIL should take the bus?

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We are visiting family abroad next week and MIL will be visiting at the same time but travelling separately. We land in the morning and will be hiring a car to get us and our two children to our destination. MIL doesn't arrive until mid afternoon. It's too long a gap for us to wait around for her.

Now DH is saying he will drive us the hour and a half to our destination then go back to the airport later to collect MIL. AIBU to think this is silly and he should just let her get the bus?

To clarify she goes to visit these relatives regularly and always gets the airport bus to the town they live in. So this won't be a problem for her and she has even said that is what she will do this time.

AIBU? It just seems crazy for him to do a 3 hour round trip to collect her when she can get the bus and he could collect her from ten minutes away. He will already have driven to the airport that morning then driven us the 1.5 hours to the relatives house.

I must admit I don't much fancy sitting in his relatives house for 3 hours or so without him either, having to make small talk. So maybe I am being unreasonable?

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OP I've just read some of your other threads and my heart is breaking for you. Your husband is an awful man, an alcoholic sexist selfish bully who went out on the piss rather than support you when your dad passed away you also said that you don't love him.

I really think you should call Womans Aid and the CAB right away. Is there any way you could get him to go alone while you stay here to get some breathing space/your ducks in a row?

Apologies if you think I'm drip feeding but I've answered things people have raised in their replies. It wasn't my intention to bring up the other problems with my DH.

I've had many threads about him/us etc. I am putting plans in place to leave but am waiting to be in a stronger financial position, which I will be in a few months.

I could stop my kids going but the relatives are their family too. They will enjoy the visit, seeing their grandparent etc. I am going to feel better being there than not as then I will not have the anxiety about whether there is drinking etc.

We could find something to do but hanging around for 5 hours with small children won't be fun for any of us. So it's better all round if I go with them to the relatives house and let him go and collect his mother.

It's not an option for me to collect her as I just don't want to. It isn't necessary and it doesn't make any sense to me. I wouldn't collect my own mother under the circumstances either.

I think it's a bit silly of him but I don't think it's worth getting annoyed at. It's good his mum has offered to go by bus so isn't guilt tripping him.

My DH dies similar for his relatives when they visit from overseas. He collects them from Heathrow and drives them three hours to their destination which seems silly as there are fast coach services that they could catch instead. HIs choice though. I don't get involved.

Three hours with the relatives is nothing. You can go fir a walk even if there is no playground.