To ask how much you give for wedding gifts

[isitginoclock]

Off to a cousins wedding tomorrow. We're not particularly close, and having to travel 4 hours each way to the wedding. They've requested cash as a present, as their house is fully furnished. How much should I give?

I give fifty for friends. 100 for close friends 150 for close friends if one of is is part of the wedding party. 100 for cousins and 150-200 for siblings.

I always give cash whether they ask for it or not.

€200/€250 regardless of if its a friend or cousin. If its a sibling then we would offer to pay for a part of the wedding like the flowers , photographer ect

A cousin or very close friend I give £200 although I don't have many cousins or good friends though

According to my DM the present is supposed to equal the cost of the food per head. So if you know it is £50 per head and there are 2 people invited you should give £100.

£50 - and I like the idea of going to get a note from the bank too

ImInaPickle does that mean that you would give an acquaintance getting married at a very expensive venue more than a close friend getting married quietly at a modest venue? What with the wedding present actually being the bill for your meal?

We had a BBQ as our reception - no caterer, no flowers, no photographer, no "venue dresser", no wedding planner - about £10 a head maximum :o A friend's wedding doubled as public relations / publicity for their family business and was very expensively catered by that businesses - should my present have accounted for the fact she wasn't paying more than cost + wages and deducted the value to the family of the public relations exercise, or been based on the retail value of the standard expensive sit down wedding meal?

Nothing to do with covering your plate in my opinion. My rules are: Give more to those you feel you WANT to. Give an amount you afford. (Give less if poncy venue where you have to pay £20 for a drink)

Mind you we had copious amounts of free wine and beer where they had a few bottles for the table and then a pay bar - do you factor the cost of drinks in, or just the staggeringly over priced yet mediocre food that tends to be typical at weddings?

cross posted with altiara

5moreminutes
I might have misunderstood exactly what cover your plate means! 😳
I certainly wouldn't tot up how swish a wedding was and donate accordingly, more my thinking would be a family meal out is £100, or even when single factoring the cost of a weekends partyting.