To think FIL shouldn't say this about me being a working mum?

[PeachBellini123]

Happy to be told YABU as I'm 31 weeks pregnant and hormal:
We've decided that due to better money/career prospects I will go back to work full time and DH will be a stay at home dad when baby is born. I'm very fortunate that I can work from home regularly, my commute is reasonable and my company is very family friendly.

FIL has said at least twice that my DH will be both 'mum and dad' and that our baby will be confused and start calling DH 'mummy' because I'll be at work during the day.

I never know how to respond to this and DH will just ignore it and change the subject.
I've told DH that this comment makes me uncomfortable but DH thinks I'm being too sensitive.

Is it me or is this a weird thing to say to a heavily pregnant woman? He has said other things that I think are a bit bizarre but this comment has gotten to me.

[Thingvellir]

I would challenge him personally (in any combination of the excellent suggestions above) as I would be concerned that if he continues commenting in this way, however stupid and ridiculous we all know it is, it may affect your DH over time who doesn't deserve at all to be belittled for his choice.

I also think it's great that you've found this balance and your DH will be able to form such a wonderful bond with your child

It reminds me of some of the comments I used to get when I hired a nanny and went to work - I got comments from some people that my child would be confused over which of us was mum. I always used to respond that I didn't think it was a problem for my child to have another adult in her life who loved her.

[altiara]

So if you stayed at home then you'd be mum and dad??? No, I didn't think so! However shit he's making you feel, then god knows what he's saying to your DH. Stay strong, don't let FIL (or MIL) break your plans with stupid comments. You've agreed it's best for your family, if MIL and FIL have to admit their son doesn't have the earning potential you have, I can see their noses being put out of joint, however they should be happy he's got enough sense to marry you

[GabsAlot]

no youre not being insensitive think your dh shold back you up more

good things to say from other pp rteat him with the ignorace it deserves

my sil was the one to go back to work after she had dn-she earnt more it made more sense