Aibu to give up on home remedies and take dd to doc about constipation - just because I've had enough

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I have posted on here about all our silly little medical things - most lately quinsy last week (me). Plus a whole host of other temporary and minor issues that just seem to come one after another. I just feel like I've had enough.

My 12 month old dd is constipated she has been for 3 days. She is going ok but screaming and had a little cut . I have half heartedly tried some home remedies I went to go to the chemist but burst into tears at the thought of it and headed home.

Aibu to just go to the gp and cry at them to fix it without trying my hardest first.

I know it sounds really stupid but I am seriously at the end of my tether with it all. Again we are generally healthy just stupid little things.

Apropos EggNChips post, imo every home should have a bottle of topical magnesium oil in the bathroom cabinet.

It's a 'dry' oil that is rapidly absorbed and among its many benefits, such as alleviating cramps, stiffness, aching joints, and muscle pain in general, it also serves to keep the bowels 'regular'.

A couple of sprays rubbed into the soles of the feet should prove effective for your little dd's constipation - rub it into your own feet and hard skin will be a thing of the past. It also works a treat on thread veins and wrinkles, but don't apply it to broken skin, cuts etc, as it stings like fuck.

Adding 25-50ml to bathwater is the equivalent of several handfuls of Epsom salts and will help relieve your stress and ensure you get a restful night's sleep.

However, please be aware that not all magnesium oil is the same. I buy from a tried and tested eBay seller - please free to pm me if you'd like their details and further information.

Wait - your DD has had health issues this year? Are they relevant to her constipation? They could be. DEF a gp visit I think.

Jeez, go to the doctors, that sounds awful for her and heartbreaking for you.

Thespotted no she he had chest infections and various rashes. She has had issues with diahrea but no constipation or anything.

DD has an anal fissure at about 9 months and has been on Movicol ever since (now 2.5) due to withholding, though she is now down to only one or two sachets per week. It is not, as some people seem to think, the work of the devil. All it does is divert water to the bowel to soften up the poo and make it easier to pass.

Constipation issues are very common, I'd say 50% of the mums I've spoken to have found their children have suffered for one reason or another.

I pretty much just bathed her and put she to bed. She has had a poo today so isn't in any pain etc she happily ate her food and went to bed. Tomorrow dh is going to speak to the doctor. I told him I can't do it.

My DS suffers with constipation (used to have the exact OPPOSITE problem until 7mo, then decided to hit the other extreme).
He is now on Movicol long term. I would say be careful about buying lactulose and giving that straight off, as she likely has a bit of compaction and the stools may be firm and hard. The lactulose will give her the urge to go, but if her stools are hard to pass then it could lead to terrible pain or further tears/fear of passing them (talking from experience after the first gp prescribed lactulose and DS ended up screaming until he almost lost conciousness and tore quite badly). Your gp will likely give Movicol as it softens the stool as well as providing the laxative effect, just make sure she has plenty of water/fluids and I hope she feels better soon.
I know how you feel, it took an age to get on an even keel with DS bowels and I felt terrible for him.

Being a mum is really hard, do you have any other support you can turn to? I have a chronic condition and hate the endless doctors appointments etc so I do know how you feel. Make sure your DP knows you are at breaking point, you sound desperate OP. Hope you get some rest tonight

It sounds as if your immune system could do with a boost and I suggest you invest in a bottle of Better You's Dulux Vitamin D Spray (c£6 on eBay). Keep it by your toothbrush and use it daily - the 15m bottle should last a couple of months and you find your mood 'lifting' and clear thinking returning within a very short time of use.

Again imo, everyone in this northern climate should supplement their vitamin D intake during the winter months as a deficiency can cause feelings of tiredness, general malaise, everything requiring far more effort than usual, and 'woolly' thinking.

Last week I was at the gp and she told me to come back when I got out of hospital to have a "chat" about why I get ill all the time . Maybe I do need to take vitamins or something.

Sandys - I have no support other than dh. He is great but as I say he has always worked long hours and I have seen to the kids (we have 6) it has worked well up until the last year or so when I just stopped coping.

Hi OP, please take her to the GP.

I've just had the same problem with my 12 month old DS and by the time I took him ( after trying prune juice and other things) he was quite poorly and the GP was concerned enough to suggest a hospital admissions if it didn't shift within 24 hours. He prescribed Laxico which has worked wonders. In our case it was a combination of too many bananas not enough water and then a vomiting bug which dehydrated him further.

I hope both you and she feels better soon.

Worriedmum she is managing to go but it just makes her cry and get upset . So she isn't bunged up it's just painful for her.

I will take her to gp though

Sorry if l sound insistent but really try the magnesium, AFAIK the pain is caused by contracted muscles in the anal sphincter which then pull on the cut. Magnesium is a muscle relaxant and the only thing that resolved the pain in my case. Was 100000% better after the first dose of mg even though the fissure took a week or two to heal.

I will shut up now

Well dh has decided he had to go to work early so looks like I'm on my own again

Order some of the Hepar water! It is magnesium. If you're in South Yorkshire I will personally come and deliver you some if you want.

Thanks bill I have made a list of all the suggestions on here on my phone and when I drop the kids off I am going to the chemist armed with it and I'm buying what I can find even if I have to do it in tears

I have also done the automated phone thing for a telephone appointment with the gp just to check I'm doing the right thing as well.

Running to a GP with issues that can easily be sorted at home with a little more parental effort is one of the reasons GP practices are struggling to get patients who do need to be seen appointments.

A third world system with a culture people who think they are lucky to have it is why people die from simple and preventable illnesses. But if not going to the doctor makes people feel clever, carry on. It's why I left the UK, that and Iraq.

I remember some of your previous posts - I think your baby needs some help but so do you. Have you spoken to the gp about how you are feeling? I am not an expert but this does sound a bit like anxiety. I feel like I'm losing it with 2 kids sometimes, never mind 6 and a DH who isn't exactly on the case.

Also ignore sanctimonious posters about NHS resources. In France you'd probably take your daughter to the paediatrician- screw 'em.

Hope you are both feeling better soon

Thanks. After dd was born I started taking flouxitene and I am still taking it now. It has helped a lot but the last few weeks have been a bit of a blip!

Hey OP, I do think you need to see a GP about your own issue.

With the other illnesses though, it might be worth adding a drug sweep to your next weekly shop - get every common medicine you can think of (pain, cold, constipation, diarrhoea, indigestion, rash relief etc) and just treat it like you're stocking up a medicine cabinet?

That way you don't need to have this rush again - just make sure you keep an eye on expiry dates :)