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AIBU?

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...to expect an apology from my PIL?

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halflife · 11/02/2007 16:17

My PIL and I had a ridiculously petty argument over something. I snapped at him, then when I tried to walk into his house, he pushed me back so I couldn't get in. We had this vaguely comical (not actually at all funny at the time) situation where I was trying to get into the house (holding my baby ds) and he was shoving me back out of the door. He was furious. This was about 6 weeks ago and I just can't get over it. My dh has spoken to him about it but he denied it and they ended up having a big row . We are supposed to go round there for lunch next week and I just do not want to go.

Help! It is unreasonable to expect an apology?

OP posts:

BrumBoo · 13/10/2020 14:06

It happens sometimes, a very old thread will pop up randomly. Glitch in the matrix and all that.

I have to say though, the original OP has more than a whiff of bull about it.

Helendee · 13/10/2020 14:13

@BrumBoo
Yes definitely. 😁

TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara · 13/10/2020 14:46

Good grief! I can't imagine someone pushing his DIL while she's carrying a baby (hi grandson). That's awful.

I don't care if it happened 13 years ago I'd probably still be holding a grudge over that!

I hope OP stayed away for a while longer just to punish her awful FIL. He didn't deserve to see his grandchild until he grew up enough to realise how wrong he was to push her. Shocking behaviour from a grown man!

Leaannb · 13/10/2020 15:00

@halflife

we brought our dog round without telling them and it frightened their cat

Have you apologized to them over your appalling behavior?

ChrisPrattsFace · 13/10/2020 15:14

Imagine if OP hasn’t moved past it in 13 years and she ms been waiting for this to get redirected and comes in to tell us her 14 year old daughter still has no relationship with her grandparents because a dog scared a cat once

SkaraBrae · 13/10/2020 15:20

Wouldn't it be awesome if the OP came back with an update?

Florencex · 13/10/2020 15:24

Did he really push you though, or is that a bit of an exaggeration and in fact he just blocked your way, which he is entitled to do.

I think it was poor form to bring a dog round to somebody else’s house without telling them, even if you did plan to put it in the garden. They might not want a dog in their garden.

I think you are mainly the one at fault here.

ArnoJambonsBike · 13/10/2020 15:26

@Helendee I bet it wasn't "up there with current threads", in fact I am as certain as I can be that what you have done is hit "last" instead of "next". Given the top thread on the last page was started three days after this thread, I would bet my mortgage on it.

ktp100 · 13/10/2020 15:30

You have a point here, OP. I'm amazed your Mum isn't furious at him for pushing you.

I would absolutely demand an apology and make sure he gave it in front of other parties.

He sounds like a knob.

VinylDetective · 13/10/2020 15:35

[quote Helendee]@TidyDancer

I have better things to do than check the date of every thread.
What’s it doing up with current threads anyway?[/quote]
You resurrected it.

anuffername · 13/10/2020 15:36

@ktp100

You have a point here, OP. I'm amazed your Mum isn't furious at him for pushing you.

I would absolutely demand an apology and make sure he gave it in front of other parties.

He sounds like a knob.

@ktp100

It's 13 years ago

I expect they have moved on.

Helendee · 13/10/2020 15:51

@VinylDetective

Incorrect! Read my posts.

Leaannb · 13/10/2020 15:53

@TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara

Good grief! I can't imagine someone pushing his DIL while she's carrying a baby (hi grandson). That's awful.

I don't care if it happened 13 years ago I'd probably still be holding a grudge over that!

Shocking behavior by a grown woman. What made her think its ok to force herself into someone else's house

Helendee · 13/10/2020 15:53

@VinylDetective

Actually yes you’re right, I did but only because it was up with all of the current threads. I didn’t seek it out lol.

ArnoJambonsBike · 13/10/2020 15:59

@Helendee

Why are you persisting with this lie? It was on the last page of threads, not the current ones. You've very obviously clicked "last" instead of "next" when you have finished a page of threads.

I recognise your username from previous threads and am not surprised you won't admit to a perfectly innocent and easily made mistake.

keeprocking · 13/10/2020 16:30

we brought our dog round without telling them and it frightened their cat

Very selfish to want to bring a dog into another house without telling them, I have some sympathy with him, no doubt his version of events would be less dramatic.

Helendee · 13/10/2020 16:32

@ArnoJambonsBike

Gosh you’re nice aren’t you? I don’t feel the need to explain myself to you, I haven’t done anything wrong so kindly stop the bullying.
Why are you trawling through my past posts? You sound creepy.

ArnoJambonsBike · 13/10/2020 16:32

@keeprocking I doubt we'll hear his version. He's very probably dead or infirm 13 years later.

MissConductUS · 13/10/2020 16:34

I think it's clearly up to the dog and cat to work out as your diplomatic representatives.

ArnoJambonsBike · 13/10/2020 16:35

@Helendee Who is going through your past posts? Usernames tend to stick with me when I read idiocy and or general arseholery.

No, you don't need to explain yourself to me, but you can stop with the bollocks about a 13yo thread appearing in the front page and just, you know, admit to a mistake.

Greeneyes78 · 13/10/2020 16:36

I would not be impressed if you brought a dog to my house. A bastard dog killed my gorgeous cat in August. Think it was put down, good.

He had no right to put his hands on you though.

RopeGoat · 13/10/2020 16:41

YABU. How dare you try to force an animal into someone else's home after being explicitly told not to and when it was harassing/harming/upsetting another animal. You are entirely in the wrong. How dare YOU put your baby in that position. Is everyone supposed to let you do whatever you want because you've decided to use your baby as a shield?!
Disgusting. You should apologise and be very ashamed of yourself.

Helendee · 13/10/2020 16:43

@ArnoJambonsBike

Lovely, so I’m an arsehole, idiot and a liar? Wow that’s quite a statement about someone you don’t know.
Why are you getting your drawers in such a twist about my post?
What the fuck does it matter what page it was on? I thought it was a current post, end of. Why on earth is it concerning you?

RopeGoat · 13/10/2020 16:43

@TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara

Good grief! I can't imagine someone pushing his DIL while she's carrying a baby (hi grandson). That's awful.

I don't care if it happened 13 years ago I'd probably still be holding a grudge over that!

OP was walking TOWARDS him, using her baby as a shield. OP is in the wrong. Completely and totally.

FizzyGreenWater · 13/10/2020 16:44

He got physical with you when you were holding your baby?!

Sorry no, it wouldn't be a case of 'icy' - it would be a case of 'you won't be seeing either of us for a looong time'

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